Help with bridesmaid gowns

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Best option for bridesmaids when one is pregnant?
    A) Pregnant bridesmaid has an empire waist, and the rest don't. : (32 votes)
    84 %
    B) Everyone has an empire waist. : (5 votes)
    13 %
    C) Pregnant bridesmaid wears a completely different dress. : (1 votes)
    3 %
    D) Other - let me tell you what to do .... : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Well, the first thing that comes to mind is really wondering whether it might be best for you, or her, or both of you if she steps down as MOH and attends as a guest if she’s up for it.

    With her due date things could be really unpredictable– what if she gave birth the day before your wedding? AT your wedding? Two weeks AFTER your wedding and was really uncomfortable? It seems like a 50/50 chance that she will be able to attend your wedding and the stress of pregnancy and a new baby for her, and the unpredictableness for you, might mean that you’re both better off skipping the “what if” and letting her just attend as a guest.

    I’m sure that you’ve already thought of that and maybe you have already discussed it and are sure she still wants to be MOH but just putting it out there!

    Re: the dress, if you’re going to have a 9-month pregnant woman or brand new mother in that dress there are a couple fit factors to consider:

    -Will she potentially need to wear a nursing bra beneath it?

    -If it’s being made empire, which is a good idea, make sure that there is extra fabric in the skirt section so that it can flow out around her belly without being too tight, and it might need to even be a little longer in the front so that the hemline is even when it’s pushed way out by a belly

    -Can it be altered right before she needs to wear it?

    I think having only the MOH in empire is fine, especially since your other girls like it the way it is! Maybe skip the waist-girdle part entirely or make it very narrow and give her her own special sash to wear so that it can be adjusted as-needed for the correct placement and snugness day-of.

    Post # 4
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    918 posts
    Busy bee

    “All bridesmaids have the empire waist.  My concern here is, well, that it will make my not-stick-thin bridesmaids look like they are maybe wearing maternity dresses.”

    I’m an hourglass shape, and this dress with an empire waist would indeed make me look pregnant (or at least like I’m trying to hide that I’m pregnant).  I voted for “pregnant bridesmaid has an empire waist, and the rest don’t” – if she’s had the baby by the time of your wedding then as a guest I may notice that her dress is slightly different, but I wouldn’t dwell on it.

    Post # 5
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    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My understanding is that it takes time for the stomach to go down after delivery so I think she should have the empire waist dress.

    Post # 7
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    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would say give just her the empire waist. I’m sure everyone will know that she A) is VERY pregnant or B) just had the baby. Empire waists will indeed make you look pregnant if you are not. They are very unflattering on many body types. If you are nervous to mess up the friendship then forget about the dresses looking different because trust me nobody will care enough or question the different gown styles. However another option to consider is having each girls dress a different style but same color (strapless, one shoulder, different waist, etc…), just a thought.

    Post # 8
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    33 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    another thing to consider is that her boobs will probably be a lot bigger than they are now so make sure you factor that in before ordering her dress. 

    Post # 9
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    1881 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Yep, she gets the empire waist (don’t put anyone else through that). even if she already has given birth before the wedding, she will still most likely want the empire shape.

    Post # 10
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    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    I agree with most of the previous posters – give the pregnant BM the empire waist. I don’t think it’ll look too glaringly different.

    Post # 11
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    1333 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If she just gave birth, she’ll still have a belly so I’d give her the empire, but leave the more flattering, wider waistband for the others. Ppl in our society don’t like to talk abt post-baby belly (remember the hubbub abt Kate Middleton still having some belly when she left the hospital? It was insane!)

    It sounds like she will probably need to drop out or bail & is just in denial now. So just prepare yourself for that now so that there isn’t stress either way.

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