help with bridesmaid! not sure how to handle her anymore :(

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: what should i do?
    keep her as a bm and ignore her : (2 votes)
    18 %
    keep her as a bm but confront her - may cause issues :S : (7 votes)
    64 %
    ask her to step down and explain the reason? : (2 votes)
    18 %
    other option - please explain : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I have some issues with one of mine, too.  I have no idea if it will smooth out or not, but things seem to be getting better.  My friend isn’t where she wants to be and she and her hubby battle depression, but she’s not helping herself for it.  She is extremely competitive.  I’m thinking she will get her act together, but we’ll have to see.  My problem is that I feel like a burden no matter what, so, its hard for me to say how I feel.  I’m way to empathetic!  Maybe give it a while.  No relationship survives being kicked out or dropping out of a wedding party (without really good reasons). 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1312 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

    I would consider telling her that the way she has been acting is upsetting you a bit and you can’t tell if she’s happy to be in the wedding party.  Make her reflect on her actions.  Maybe tell her it would mean a lot for you to have her there, but only if she really wants to be there and it isn’t a burden to her.  I’d let her know you care about her too but that her complaints about the food and expenses are stressing you out a bit and you want her to do whatever makes her happy…if she’s happier just being a guest, that’s fine.

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