- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
DH and I have sort of talked this over, but I’m having trouble actually speaking my mind to him about this issue because I feel selfish. Here’s the situation:
One of DH’s female coworkers/friends (very small department and we’ve all hung out outside of work), just up with her long-term boyfriend about 2 weeks ago, partially because he was holding her back from her desired career. She was devestated and he covered a few shifts for her while she went home to visit family and recoup.
However, she has just been uncategorically rejected from her desired career (yes, I’m being vague intentionally). In the meantime, she started dating another guy who asked her to slow things down, which she took as rejection. Then, the day after these blows, her supervisor/friend/coworker sent an e-mail basically calling her out on missing work and leaving her post during the workday so much (it was very harshly put – and I know the girl who sent it, so I believe it was harsh – but some of it was true).
The girl is absolutely crushed/depressed. DH gets off work around 8 pm. Last night, I had dinner ready and was waiting for him when he called and told me that he was going to stay awhile and talk with her. He got home around 10 pm
Tonight, all 3 of us are going to hang out when DH gets off work at 8 pm at a bar for awhile (I gave up alcohol for Lent, so I’ll DD for them… well, her – DH won’t get drunk.)
Here’s the thing – I know she’s struggling and I love that DH is a good, loyal friend. However, I hardly get to see him during the week (Sunday is the only day we both have off) and now when he’s home, she’s texting him. Now he’s staying late and making plans to try to raise her spirits.
I’m not worried about cheating, so I want to clear that up right away, as I know someone will suggest it. I’m worried he’ll fall into being her sole support and she’ll get dependent on him. I’m also selfish and jealous – she’s taking my limited time with DH away.
Help me either get past this or just commiserate – please!
Sorry for the book!