- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
i forgot to add some tags to this please excuse having to double post this!
So I’m debating big time on this…I don’t know if I should try and mend the relationship between my father and I? He does not support me in what I want to do in life and my relationship between my fiance and I. He still wants to walk me down the aisle though….and I’m honestly thinking he only wants to do it for show. Has anyone else walked down the aisle with someone else or by themselves? Please let me know I’m so frustrated with this decision. My fiance thinks I should walk down the aisle with my grandfather, but I know that my grandparents think that my father should do it so that I don’t hurt my mother’s and father’s feelings. I’m considering me walking by myself, with my fiance, or someone else. My brother does not want to even go to my wedding. It just seems like everytime I try to make them happy it ends up backfiring in my face. I just am to the point of just eloping and getting it over with and I hate the fact that its like this when it should be a happy time in all of our lives. My fiance and I already live together and no one in my family likes this either. My family keeps suggesting that we should not live together and split up and I move back in with my parents but I have already vowed to myself i will never do that again no matter what because I was depressed living there. My parents are also trying to tell me that I’m the cause of their marital problems and that I am/have “ruining (my dad’s) life and family relationships”. Has anyone else been through something like this and have any advice for me. And my father is bullheaded enough to think he is not the problem in my parents’ relationship or that they need to communicate with each other more. I’m also to the point where I just want to remove myself from my family but I know that it will hurt my family a lot and I just want the hurt to go away so this can be a happy time full of love and celebration for all.But I have tried talking to them but it just doesnt seem to work…help with advice please!