(Closed) Help with fiance’s “friend”!!

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just try not to let them rain on your parade. There are always people that aren’t going to react how we would like them to, or who aren’t going to be happy for us because of their own issues, but you just have to let it go. You and your FI are in love and happy together and getting married and that is SO exciting, so yeah – they probably won’t be happy for you (at least it sounds like she won’t), but ultimately who cares? You’re happy and your FI is happy and that’s what really matters. If they can’t be happy for you guys then screw ’em. I’m sure you’ve got plenty of other people who are actually GOOD friends who are happy and excited for you. Focus on the good, supportive people in your life, not the stupid jealous bitter girl whose boyfriend won’t propose to her…

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Just be prepared for the negativity when you tell them. If she’s nasty, then say "Well, I’m sorry you feel that way, but we’re very happy so we’d appreciate it if you could be happy for us. If you can’t be, then I think we’ll be on our way!" There’s no way I’d sit there and let someone poop all over my happiness.

Good luck!

 

Post # 5
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Given the way she already feels, I would not even worry about breaking the news in a way that will appease her! Will you and your fiancee be telling this group of friends together, or is it just you? I would just mention it in a casual way and let them react however they choose. Just don’t let them ruin the fact that you have such wonderful news to share with everyone else 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Be prepared for her to be less-than-thrilled. And just keep in mind that everyone works on their own timeline. When they mature enough to WANT to get married, and WANT to settle down and WANT to stop bar-hopping…then they can do it. In the meantime, too bad for them.

It sounds to me like she’s bitter. She wants him to propose but he doesn’t (because he’s in love with the "single lifestyle", duh!) and so it’s an endless cycle of no fun for either party.

Her loss. Oh well. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah, I definitely love what budgetbeautiful said, I would probably say the same thing–because you already know how she feels, why worry about what she thinks? She’s the one that’s not getting married and is being overall an ugly person, while you’ll be the beautiful bride and you shouldn’t worry about what a person like that thinks!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

1st off…. Congrats on your engagement!

2nd… Don’t let her ruin your great news! She maybe have a stick up her bum b/c she’s getting tried of her man not stepping up and proposing. People grow up over time so of course we stop going out to drink on a regular basis… maybe she is at the point to in her life, but her partner is not ready to grow up and she misplacing that frustration.

We announced our engagement at the same time to everyone! We took a ring shot picture and texted that photo to everyone in our phonebook, no words just a picture… phone calls started to pour in. It was odd b/c FI’s old best friend received the picture and called two days later (mind you FI hasn’t talked to him in 6 months… we where all really close as one point). The conversation was… “omg, your engaged.. I don’t know what to say.. well how’s going?” WTF, you say congrats and move on… Well like I said, we where all really close and his girlfriend found out we where engaged, they had been going out as long as us, and she eventually broke up him. I ran in to her and she said it was our engagement that was the catalyst to her kicking out. She said that she relized that he was never going to change, and she was ready to be with someone who wanted what she wanted and not waiting for him to get to that point.

You could test the waters and send a text, similar to us. If they are happy for you and your FI… they will call right away and want to know all the details.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Poopy on them! What a bia.

Tell them anyways with a big ole grin on your face, flash your ring, and if she says anything snarky, just say, "aww, somebody’s jealous" in a half-jokingly-yet-OH-SO-TRUE manner. 

Hey, throw it back in her face. 

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