Post # 1
Thought that this was a good place to pose this question.
I went to college about 6-7 years ago. I am the first person to make to college in my family so I didn’t have any informational resources, I had no idea how college worked and I enrolled in an all girls private school without any aid from my family. I had a good scholarship but I lost it the first semester because I ended up and academic probation from the chaotic life I couldn’t handle. My mom had just been diagnosed with leukemia my senior year from high school and my life was just chaos since then. I’m not going to go into details about that but it was so chaotic that I broke out in shingles at 18. I bit a lot more than what I could chew in college and failed. I got back on track with my grades but I had to pay for school with ridiculous loans to the point where in my junior year I couldn’t get any more loans so I had to drop out of college. Last 6 years have been a roller coaster. I met the love of my life and one of the most wonderful things in my life happened and I married my best friend last year.
Anyways, I have always had finishing college in the back of my mind. What has always kept me back is debt from the previous failed years and fear of failure and unable to keep up from the continous chaos in my life still from my own side of the family. My parents started to have marital issues and my mother decided to share this 2 weeks before our wedding. 1 year later and now they are going through a NASTY separation that’s too painful to explain. Anyhow, now that I am married I’m at a wall with myself. While I love my job, if I had a college degree, I would be payed more and have more possibilities with the company. Not only that, but I have just realized that the success I would have would not only benefit my husband and I but any future kids we may have. They would benefit the most. While we live comfortably right now, I’m scared when I think how we would live once kids are added to the mix.I believe I have the drive, I’m just scared of making the move and I’m exhausted from life events but my life has not gotten any easier…..even though great things have happened, like my hubs.
I hear women with kids are doing it and I have no idea how. Please ladies, talk to me. Help me make that leap. Of course I have no money, I realize now the benefit of a college education. I Know that my wifey life will get harder and I may have to put my family on the side, I’m just scared to do it. My mother depends a lot on me and I also work for the hospital that she gets seen at so it’s a bit easier that way but I still have to take lots of time off for it. I am the oldest child. Hubs wants to move to the next step and start a family but those plans are on hold for at least a year.
Please share your hardship but succesful stories and advice, I just need to know that it can be done and it would be worth it in the end OR if it isn’t. Has anyone had the same story or close to it? For the last 6 years, I have started to look for college continuation courses but then I remember that I didn’t pay my last year of college and because of that I cannot get an official transcript of the classes I completed so I may have to start from scratch and I don’t believe it would be worth it if I have to start from scratch. I work as a new patient coordinator at a hospital and I would like to get a bachelors in health management so that I could move up to the big leagues.
So bees, any advice?
Post # 3
@Saramina329: I haven’t been through this- but you can do it! It sounds like you’re under a lot of stress, so before you go for it, build up your support system. You’ve got your hubby. What about friends or relatives? If possible, I recommend getting a counselor or psychologist too. It could help so much just to know every week you have someone to talk to and vent and work out all your stress with, no matter what everyone else is doing. Get that support going!!!! And then I really think you can do it! Good luck!!!
Post # 4
@Saramina329: JMHO, My son and I both have lots of college/grad school debt, and do not have jobs to pay the loans off. My son’s graduating class from 3 yrs. ago -no one in his field (Pharm. Chemistry) has gotten a position. For entry level positions, he needs 5-10 yrs. experience. If you want to further your education, my advise is to keep your job and go to school part-time, or just work your way up if possible.
Post # 5
I would look into some online programs. For example, the state I’m from has online bachelor of liberal studies programs from the state schools that you can complete in as little as 1 year (in state tuition no matter where you live) depending on how many credits you already have.
If you just want a degree and don’t care what it’s in, this is a good option. If you specifically want a degree in healthcare management, you will have to search but I’m sure there are some online and/or part time programs near you. While some people are having trouble finding jobs out of college, if you know a degree will help you advance in your current career it’s probably worth it. Just don’t go to a pricey private school. Also, see if your hospital has any tuition reimbursement programs or anything.
Post # 6
@ nawella, creativeplannertobee,
Thank you all for the advice. I am lucky to get tuition reimbursement from my work but for a limited small amount a year which is better than nothing. I think searching for a school is limited but not a problem. The problem lies in the situation i’m in where I don’t know if I’ll be able to pick up where I left off or even use my credits. I was looking for guidance on how to get back into school and what to ask for I guess. Thanks so much for the feed back.
@creativeplannertobee This is very unfortunate, I wish both of you good luck. That is scary.
Post # 7
@Saramina329: There are schools all over the Baltimore area that have programs for working adults. In particular you might want to check out UMUC who do all their programs online. Check out the websites for Towson, UMBC, Goucher, Loyola, JHU, etc. Each school should have a person who deals with returning adult and working students and most schools these days offer distance courses or if you’re not disciplined enough for those they have evening classes. I’m assuming your company reimbursement is somewhere around that $5500 mark so that you don’t get taxed on it. Just be mindful of that when you choose a school so that you can get the most classes in the least amount of time. Normally, you’re able to take 1-2 courses/semester if it’s approved by the company. You can also look into Strayer or Phoenix but I’m not a huge fan of these types of for-profit schools.
Good luck to you!
Post # 8
My sister completed her degree in TWELVE YEARS, one class at a time. She worked full time, raised two boys as a single mom, and graduated after the boys grew up and moved out.
It can be done. Tuition reimbursement? Go for it!
Post # 9
It’s a long, long life. Plenty of time to finish a degree. I would go part time and keep working. Thats great they will pay you for that