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Help with Groom and Groomsmen Attire

posted 1 year ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Which men's tuxedo?
    Groom: Ivory Vest, and Necktie Groomsmen: Pink Bowtie, No Vest (cummerbund) : (5 votes)
    26 %
    Groom: Ivory Vest, and Necktie Groomsmen: Black Bowtie, No Vest (cummerbund) : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Groom: Ivory Vest, and Necktie Groomsmen: Pink Necktie, No Vest (cummerbund) : (4 votes)
    21 %
    Groom: Ivory Vest and Necktie Groomsmen: Black Vest and Necktie : (8 votes)
    42 %
    Groom: Ivory NECKtie, NO vest (cummerbund) Groomsmen: Pink Bowtie, No Vest (cummerbund) : (0 votes)
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    Helper bee
    southernbride10    June 4, 2011   South Carolina

    I am thinking of having my

    -groomsmen wear a classic black tuxedo, with a pink bowtie that matches the bridesmaids.

    I llke the idea of seeing the tuxedo buttons, so they will go without a vest. I LOVE the look of the bowties. However, my groom doesn't like bowties, and wants to wear a regular necktie, and would prefer to wear a vest.

    Therefore,I plan to have him in the regular IVORY necktie, and vest.

    Would this be okay? Please vote. Do you think it will look strange with groom in necktie, and vest-and groomsmen in bowties, and no vest?

    Some information on the wedding:

    6:00 pm church wedding, Outdoor tented reception

     

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    Verno Inferno    October 16, 2010   Chicago

    Nope: it won't look strange to have the groomsmen in one tie and the groom in another. It'll be one of those happy things that sets the groom apart so that you can identify him if you lose him.

    Tip on vests:  if you go to a decent enough place they can get you proper vests that are very low-cut such that you can see all the studs on the shirt.  The tux vest originally was really never meant to be seen when the gent has his jacket closed, so in some of the photos you find where it looks like the guy isn't wearing a vest, in all likelihood he's in either a cummerbund or a low-cut vest. There's an upside to using the lowcut vest or cummerbund. The photo below illustrates some of these points.

    (1) Brad has a low cut vest.  When his jacket is closed, you wouldn't see it.  If he were wearing black studs instead of pearl or whatever, you'd see his 4 shirt studs.

    (2) The fellow on the left without a vest learned the hard way that because tuxes are intended to have some sort of waist covering, you only get 4 studs when you buy or rent a set. And now he looks goofy because it looks like he's missing a button at the bottom. So if you go for the bowtie and no waistcovering and black studs, be prepared for the fact that they should keep their jackets buttoned if they don't want to look "off." But a black cummerbund or a low vest would fix that too.

     

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    southernbride10    June 4, 2011   South Carolina

    @Verno Inferno:Thanks so much for your advice! I will make sure if they don't do a vest, they will have the cummerbund (or I could ask about the low vest). Maybe I can talk my FI into trying on some cummerbund or low vest looks, but he could still keep his ivory euro (neck) tie [instead of the bow tie]. Unfortunately, I doubt I will talk him into the bow tie, because he thinks the neck tie is slimming.

     

    Anyone else think the pink bow ties, and ivory neck tie will look too different (with cummberbund/low vest i.e., vest is not showing)? 

    Should I stick with black bow ties, and ivory necktie look?

    Any pictures of your groom/groomsmen with these looks would be appreciated!

    Thanks again!

     
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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    I think it will look fine to have them in different things.  You are wearing a completely different outfit from the bridesmaids, so why not have your groom wear something different from his groomsmen?

    My husband wore the same tie & dress shirt (they were green) as his groomsmen, but he wore a light gray suit, and they wore a bit darker gray vest and pants combo.  I liked how it looked!

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    I think the combos you originally described (Groom: Ivory Vest, and Necktie Groomsmen: Pink Bowtie, No Vest with cummberbund) would look really nice together.  And having your groom dressed differently will make him stand out a bit more!

     
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    southernbride10    June 4, 2011   South Carolina

    Thanks so much for you opinions ladies!

     

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