Post # 1
My FI legal first name is Jack. His entire life, he has gone by J.J. which stands for Jack Junior – although JJ is not his first and middle initial. His dad goes by Jack.
Of course, the weird thing is that he is actually not even a Jr. – He’s a III (don’t even get me started…)
I’m struggling with how to print his name on the invitations. Although everyone who gets one will know that it’s him, I’m wondering if people will be surprised to see his name printed as formally as Jack. This is his his second wedding and I haven’t yet asked him what they put on the first, although I plan to. I’m trying to have some differences between the first wedding and ours. Also, I am toying with the idea of having them be a bit more casual in relation to our “bird theme” so the wording would be a bit more light in tone, such as this:
Birds of a Feather
invite you to join them
in celebration of their marriage
So what should I pick? Also, these aren’t really our last names, FYI.
Note that because his dad is “Jack” – No one calls my FI Jack but about 50% of the invitees call his Dad that. Might be a bit weird.
Post # 3
I would just use his legal first name – Jack.
Post # 4
I think that putting his nickname would be fine. It doesn’t seem bad to put him is JJ Smith (especially since the wording of your invites isn’t traditional or super formal).
Post # 5
I’d put J.J – what EVERYONE knows him as…
Post # 6
I think the proper way would be to either say “Jack Warren Jones III” or “Jack Warren “J.J.” Jones III.” If you’re going casual then I’d do Christa Smith and J.J. Jones.
Post # 7
Depending on the formality of the wedding, I’d stick with the legal spelling. Although some people might not recognize it at first, wedding invitations usually use someone’s formal spelling of their name, so they’d be able to figure it out eventually.
Post # 8
I probably should have mentioned this – I use my middle name. There are people who actually know me professionally as Christa Lynn. I’d rather keep my middle name in there.
Post # 9
I would do Jack Warren “J.J.” Jones III
Post # 11
My FI goes by Chris or Bailey. His real first name is Robert and so is his dad’s. His full name is Robert Christopher Bailey and that is what I will be using on the invites. Now when it comes to my favors and the embroidery on the under layer of my dress and the napkins and matchbooks…etc it sounds extremely weird as Heather & Robert and it looks weird too!! My whole family knows him by Chris and I don’t even know if some of them know his real name is Robert!! I’ve decided to go ahead and use Robert on everything because of my super traditional and everything has to be perfect and correct mother!! But if I had it my way, I would use Chris on everything so I say do whatever you want!
Post # 12
I;m usually a stickler for etiquette, but the informal wording on your invites makes the legal name seem a bit out of place. I think you’re fine using J.J. Jones, espcially if that’s how he’s known to most of the family.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
if it’s a less formal event, i think the j.j. is appropriate. if it’s a bit more formal, use the legal names (although you don’t have to do III if you don’t want to).