Post # 1
Thanks to a few other Bees, I decided to take some items on my HM as a surprise that FI will get to unwrap. What he unwraps is what I wear that night. Right now, I have a racy pair of undies and lingerie outfit. One night will be au naturel. Then I bought some comfy but sexy nightshirt type things from VS…one says Love and the other says Angel…both are in glitter, so it’s flirty and fun, but those are just for me to roam around in and for sleeping.
I still cannot find my HM outfit…and I’m getting nervous. The girl helping me at VS said it should be “POW” and “POPPIN'” and while I agree I should make it fun and wow the pants (literally) off him, I just can’t figure this out. I also have to be comfortable, because let’s face it, if I’m not, it will show and I will not be able to enjoy myself. I was thinking another pair of racy undies (he likes me in just that most times) but she looked at me odd when I said that…made me think it wasn’t enough?
I will not need a bra with my dress b/c it totally supports me and the cups and strappy thing are sewn in my dress. Further, I bought these super cute “I Do” thongs that tie on each side…when the heck do I wear them?! Is that approproate “HM night”? Or do I wear them another night? Or even before we say I do?
What are you wearing on your HM or night of? Am I planning too much? I also wonder if I should just let some of this happen naturally.
The Woman Who Acts Like She’s Never Had Sex
Post # 3
@Coral99: I think I have the same pair of “I do” thongs from VS. One of my BMs gave them to me bc she thought I could wear them as my something blue, but the ties on the side will show because my dress is more form fitting. If your dress will allow you to wear them, I’d say wear them then!
Our post wedding schedule is crazy because we will be leaving our reception around midnight and our flight is at 6am that morning, and the airport is about an hour away. We’ll be spending our wedding night at the airport lol. I plan to wear the “I do” thongs the next evening.
I’m also looking for a few “outfits” to wear. We have a private Villa, so one idea I have is to find a sexy silky robe to wear around the villa with nothing underneath.
Also, maybe think about using other things other than lingerie? If he likes you to just wear racy undies, then maybe give it that extra “pop” with some sexy heels or other accessories like thigh-highs or a tie?
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
I’m not going to be wearing a shapewear bustier thing for my dress so unfortunately nothing too sexy. I do plan on using a sexy silky robe and a sexy chemise for another time. I also plan on getting some thigh high hoisery to use with a garter for another night. The best thing to do is go and just get things that YOU like. Trust me when you feel sexy it will rock his socks, not so much if you feel uncomfortable! So if you feel comfortable get a chemise that is a bit sheer on your midrift and rock it with a sexy thong/panty of your choice (preferably not granny panties?), something with lace that is also a bit sheer. I recall reading that most men find prefer black and red lingerie so you can incorporate a bit of that if you want to bring a bit of colour or change from the traditional white =)
Post # 5
You’re going to be sweaty and gross under your dress after the wedding, just FYI, so don’t plan on whatever you have on under your dress translating directly into sexy time…you’ll want to de-gross and put on something fresh, or just nothing at all! We actually took a bath to clean up before anything happened, because we had danced and been outside taking pictures, etc all day!
Post # 6
Well I will be wearing an all lace white cheekini (undies) for my undergarments. My dress is backless so I can’t wear a bra, but I have a white bra to match for the honeymooon and I bought some other lingerie, but I didn’t go crazy because I know it won’t be staying on long ;P
Post # 7
@Coral99: I just want to say THANK YOU for asking this because I was wondering the same things!
Post # 8
@crayfish: Thanks for bringing up this real possibility!! We are doing my trash the dress photo shoot right after. This will involve salt or pool water.
@KT_Hime: Good point. Lol. Maybe I need to relax a bit. I love those cheekini type undies!! I find them sexier than thongs, actually. But the sales woman didnt seem impressed. Most of the time I wear cotton granny panties for comfort. I have other fun things but really, I’m a basic undie gal for the most part. Cheekinis are a good style for me!
@excitedtobeMRSF: So welcome. 🙂 I feel really intimidated!!!
Post # 9
@Ettalie: All good thoughts… Thank you.
@MissCountryGirl727: Thank you! I am def bringing heels. Great ideas.
I also want to say that a satin/silk robe I tried on, just didnt work. It kept coming undone and didn’t flatter me, so I’m looking for that too.
Post # 10
@Coral99: I wore a lace thong from Victoria’s Secret that had “bride” in rhinestones on it under my wedding dress on my wedding day. It was very comfortable. My dress had a built-in bra. Once we made it back to the hotel room, I went to change into something more “comfortable”. I purchased a pair of sexy cheeky panties from Victoria Secret that were white and silver with a matching Very Sexy bra. I also wore a satin robe over it, that said “Bride” on the back. I put my shoes back on and wooed him in that emsemble.
Post # 11
@Coral99: Remember, the Victoria’s Secret lady’s job is to sell underpants. Don’t take her at her word on how much underpants is needed. I’m not saying she’s trying to con you into making you buy underwear. I’m saying that she is in a place where the mentality is that lingire is the most awesome way to decorate your awesome body, so she’s naturally not going to get it when your va va VOOM look is with less fancy pants underwear as opposed to more and fancier and pantier.
That being said, my recommendation is to go with a garter belt. They are a rare enough creature that they will feel like a special outfit for him. They are known for being a sexy garment without having the fetish rep of corsets. They are also WAY WAY WAY more comfortable than pantyhose. Seriously. They are so much better.
Pair it up with your thong that ties on the side, and you even get to skip out on the “I know I look really hot but give me one second I need to take this whole rigging off so you can actually get at my vagina, oh hell, was I supposed to put my undersear on the outside? Is this pause really supposed to be here!?” moment.
Post # 12
@MissCountryGirl727: “sexy silky robe to wear around the villa with nothing underneath.”
THIS. Honestly, I think you’re planning too much. Lingerie is for women to feel sexy in. Men prefer nudity.
Every time I ask my FI what’s sexy, he always says, “nothing”. And he means it literally.
Post # 13
@JackiBean: Idk…I really think it can go lots of ways. My FI sincerely likes lace and soft feeling stuff. Yes, if I was standing in front of him, naked, there would be no objection, but I once wore an all lace tank top and surprised him with that and he went crazy. I think it’s all about what we know or think they might like. 🙂 Maybe her FI talks a lot about a similiar idea or something.
I actually thought about buying pasties, for fun b/c….HELL why not? Lol!!!
I will be getting a cute/comfy robe b/c the sales lady did make a good point…she said you want to slowly unwrap yourself. I also think it’s just good to have in general, but that’s just me!
I love all these great perspectives…some really great food for thought.
Post # 14
@Bracelet00: Excellent point! I kept telling myself that but when I got home, I thought it is a total possibility I don’t know what I’m doing. Lol
I am really self conscious aboit my thighs. I feel a garter belt will draw attention, no? I’ve see some racy stuff on Frederick’s of Hollywood that might be nice. I need to go to that store. I went a few months ago and was really impressed…lots of sizes, with helpful sales staff. Maybe I will ask about a garter belt.
I have to say, this might be in the running!! It is different enough.
Post # 15
@Coral99: If you want to minimize your thighs, you might like getting a belt with list and lots of straps. Vertical lines, breaking up how much skin you see at one time, and you could try a darker color on your legs (or even the clasically scandalous fishnet.)
The belt I wear has a pretty thick belt, and 6 straps, but I’ve seen them with 8 of even more, if that’s the route you’d like to go.
I wouldn’t worry too much about your thighs though. I’ve found most men react to a naked woman like a kid dumping out their Halloween candy. There are parts they pick out and go for first, parts they won’t get straight to, and parts they’re not interested in that they leave alone, but ultimately HOLY CRAP IT’S A HUGE PILE OF CANDY AND IT’S MINE!
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
You know what? I went out and spent more than I ever have on a complete set of matching lingerie for the wedding night. After the reception I was so sweaty and gross and he didn’t care about the lingerie right then, so we simply had a quicky and joined in the hot tub party. I didn’t get to wear my wedding night skivvies until the next night. Know what he liked best? The lace topped thigh highs. Yup LOL. I could have worn those and skipped the rest. Less is more. You know what he likes, so work with that and don’t feel like you need to please the salesladies 🙂