Help with if I should invite my bosses???

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Don’t invite them. You don’t want them there and neither does your family. If they say anything (which I doubt they will) just say you have a budget you need to stick to and unfortunately you couldn’t invite everyone.

Post # 4
2056 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No.  I love my office and managers but I am not inviting anyone from work to the wedding.  If it comes up and you feel like they’re hinting at wanting to be invited, you can say something about trying to keep the guest list small (or about how many family members you have if it’s not small).


I think keeping work and personal life separate (ie wedding in the personal life sphere) is more than fine.

Post # 5
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You don’t have to if you don’t want to. You can keep your personal life seperate. If they mention anything to you, you can just say that you’re keeping the guest list small or you had to make cuts to fit the venue. I wouldn’t discuss the wedding planning with them either.

Post # 6
1470 posts
Bumble bee

No way, the relationship isn’t the same and with the new dynamic, you don’t want them to be a part of your special day. Totally understandable. It’s a job, you work hard and you’re paid for it or compensated with perquisites occasionally (ie help with house, 2 days off etc) They don’t do you any favors.


Post # 7
3673 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I wouldn’t invite them, and I would avoid talking about wedding plans at work so they don’t assume they’re invited.

Post # 8
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Did they already receive save the dates? If so, then they should be invited.

Otherwise, no. Keep work and social separate.

Post # 9
6166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@missjewels:  just because you work with them, does not mean you have to invite them.

i invited no coworkers.


Post # 10
3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can’t think of any boss that expects to be invited, unless you had a significant out-of-office friendship (e.g. regular hangouts). So there’s certainly no obligation for you to invite that person.

In addition, I think it’s really unprofessional for him to have acted the way he did, regardless of whether it has stopped or not.

I personally would not invite him. If it’s easier, I wouldn’t invite anyone from the office. I invited my boss and other coworkers, but my current boss is a great guy and very respectful of me and others.

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