- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I’ll begin my explaining that I don’t have too many female friends that I’m super close with, so thinking about bridesmaids and a maid of honor has been quite a process. But here is what I’ve come up with.
So I know I’m going to have 6 birdesmaids at this point. Two are my fiance’s sisters, who I’m not super close with. One is my older sister, who lives far away and again, I’m not super close with her. The other is a friend I grew up with and spent many summers with as a day camp counselor. We’re not super close anymore, but I met my fiance through her older brother and our entire group of friends is going to be in the wedding party, so I don’t want to leave her out. So those are 4 bridesmaids for sure.
Then I have two more girls that are both bridesmaids, the first is my cousin and the second is a childhood friend.
My cousin is just over a month older than me. Her mother and my mother are two of the closest sisters I’ve ever seen, and growing they had us together as often as we could (which wasn’t too often as we’ve never lived fewer than 4 hours away by car). I have lots of great childhood memories of us playing together at grandma’s house, and we’ve always gotten along really well. She also was just the maid of honor for her older sister’s wedding, so I know she knows all that goes into a wedding. She still lives four hours away from me, but she has a stable job as a nurse and I know she would be able to help me plan and get time off when necessary.
My childhood friend is someone I’ve known since we were in the first grade. She was one of those friends that was always there through everything, even if we weren’t always super tight. We were really close in high school when we were both in choir togehter, but then we went to different colleges and I became more isolated from our group of friends. We’ve grown a little apart over the past few years, but she recently moved back to our hometown so we’ve been spending more time together. She is currently job searching though, so she could end up living far away. She is a super fun person, she’s already gone dress shopping with me twice, has been texting me with fun wedding ideas, and has just been super excited about the whole thing. My family loves her, plus she knows my fiance really well too (she’s also apart of our group of friends), so she’ll know more people at the wedding and be a bigger help in planning a shower/ bachelorette party since she’s from our same hometown.
So as I’m typing out this post I’m defintiely becoming more set on who I think should be maid of honor, but I’m interested to see what everyone else thinks.
Also, I got engaged in July 2013 and the wedding isn’t until July 2015. I know that you’re not suppossed to ask people too early, as friendships change and what not, so I’m wondering what you think about asking one of these ladies to be my maid of honor. I feel especially bad when my friend is talking to me so much about the wedding and I’m not telling her that she’ll be involved in some way. Any thoughts about whether it would make sense to ask people now? Or if I should wait? I honestly don’t think I’ll make any new friends that I’ll feel comfotrable asking to be in my wedding in the next year, but I guess you never know!
Thanks for your input! It is always so helpful!