Help with MOH/newborn baby situation

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’m pretty sure they’ll come to the same conclusion (ie going home) on their own, so I wouldn’t even bring it up.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

208bride:  Have you asked her?  Like “hey MoH, I realize you will have a new baby at the wedding.  Have you thought about logistics?  Would you want to stay at the cabin or head home? I know it’ll be loud here and you’ll be feeding every few hours,  so if you don’t want to stay with us that is fine.” She may be very happy for the freedom not to stay with you.

Post # 4
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8754 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

it makes sense for them too- they’re going to need the comforts of home and itll be a feat for them to even make it through the wedding. Don’t stress.

Id just say what pollywog suggested. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a relatively new mom (9 months) and I absolutely would want to be staying home since it’s so close to your venue anyway and I wouldn’t feel like I was missing out on some romantic/fun getaway. I’d want the comforts of home. If she’s breast feeding it’s not like she can easily stay at the reception very long anyway.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

208bride:  Are you kidding me?? It’s a BABY not the Ebola virus. Chances are everyone but her will be so drunk the night of they won’t notice a baby crying. 

That being said, I don’t see how any new mom would even want to stay out late, away from home and its creature comforts. I suppose asking her what her plans were the night of might be one way to address the issue.

Post # 7
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7536 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m sure she’d rather be at home too. I wouldn’t even want to go to a wedding days after giving birth. Recovery is tough.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If I were you I’d be more concerned about birth logistics than sleeping arrangements. Even if she has a scheduled c-section for days before your wedding complications from the surgery could arise (knock on wood), the baby could be early, late, whatever. Truth be told your MOH might be thinking that she can totally be a new mom AND your MOH but could conceivably cancel at the last minute. Whoa! Sooooo I’d be thinking about Plan B and C here instead of where to put them to bed.  

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Glad to hear that you guys found a solution that worked for everyone! Don’t let it worry you. My MOH had a 1 month old at our wedding, another bridesmaid had a 2 month old and a groomsman had a 4 month old. They had a breast feeding party during the cocktail hour (they all went to a separate room and chatted while they were breastfeeding). It was all fine!

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