Post # 1
I’m white and my FI is Mexican. We live in the US. He is cradle catholic and I converted a few years ago. In his culture they have godparents or padrinos in the wedding mass. I knew nothing of that but want his culture represented So I’m all for it. He wants his uncle and aunt who live in Mexico as the padrinos and I don’t know them. I’m fine with that but apparently he wants me to feel I can go to them for marriage advice but I am not a natural Spanish speaker and I don’t know them other than the one interaction I had with them. They are not helping to sponsor the wedding or pay for anything, my parents are doing it all. I’ll have them as the padrinos for culture/tradition but now he wants them on our invitations. Bottom line is he out of line to ask for the padrinos to be on the wedding invitations and ask me to view them as important?
Post # 3
@Amelia2014: no, he is not out of line, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it.
Traditionally, whomever pays for the wedding, has their names included on the invite. You can explain that to him. I assume you feel like it’s disrespecting your parents to add someone’s name when your parents are footing the bill, correct? Before you fight his request, ask your parents how they feel. If they are offended, then explain it to him and say know. They are paying for the invites, so they say what goes on them.
Make sure he knows that they can be included in the programs. They will be mentioned and honored, even if it’s not the invites.
Post # 4
How exactly did he want their names worded on the invitation? I know nothing about Mexican culture but I can’t imagine how that would work. Definitely list them in the program though, but I wouldn’t want them on the invitation either.
Alternatively, have two sets of invites. Send the padrino ones to the Mexicans who will understand, and the normal ones to your side/other guests.
Post # 5
theres a difference between padrinos that foot the bill and padrinos that are spiritual guides. I have the padrinos who are spiritual they give the laso and rosary bible etc depends though and yes they are on the invitation too because they are spiritual guides and sometimes they give good gifts too but last minute . We never put parents as padrinos but if you really want to add them on the invite do so. The other padrinos can help with drinks , the cake or food etc. we put them on the invite as a thank you or recognition and thy also dance with the bride after the first dance with your husband .i am going through the process of looking for my spiritual padrinos . Message me if you have any questions . I have been to like fifty Mexican weddings and am planning my Mexican wedding
Post # 5
Usually it goes something like this:
Post # 6
Woah, sorry for the huge image, thought I’d made it smaller. xD
Post # 7
Are they padrinos like lazo, velacion, arras, etc?? Usually, those go on the programs. Like a pp said, the only names that go on the invitations are the parents of the bride and groom. At least thats how I understand it. I’m Catholic and Mexican and I’ve been to my fair share to these weddings and I’ve never seen the padrino’s names on the invitations