Post # 1
I need a way to say ‘reply by juky 24th b/c we need final numbers for the caterer’ in a nice and eloquent way. Any ideas??
Oh and what date should be the cut off?? The wedding is August 24th so I figured July 24th but my fiance thinks it should be earlier then that.
Please Help :S
Post # 3
@sburger555: your FI is incorrect. your invitations should be mailed 6-8 weeks before the event, with an RSVP deadline of 1-2 weeks before the event.
“The favour of your reply is requested by ….. ” is the standard.
It seems like sending out invites early is helpful, buit it really isnt. Many guests won’t know their schedules too far ahead of time, and then people will have to change their reply or say no, because they know.
Post # 4
I would set the RSVP date to be a week before you have to submit final numbers to your caterer. That will give you time to contact the inevitable non-responders by phone, email, facebook- whatever it takes.
Unfortunately, you really can’t say ” If we don’t hear from you by July 24 we will :
a) asssume you are not coming, and
b) will not provide a seat, beverages or food for you.”
Everyone knows why they need to respond, aside from simply being courteous, so it wouldn’t help to explain why you need the responses by a certain date.
Post # 6
Good info here from julies1949:
Ok for the record, I am an Etiquette Snob… so let me provide for you the traditional wording for a Reply / RSVP Card …
The favour of your reply is requested by July 24
The text would differ if you use the
___ seats are being reserved in your honor format
OR if you are having a Plated Meal with Main Course Choices for your Guests (not French Service or Buffet)… and therfore require the Guest to submit with their Reply which Main Course(s) they are selecting..
Hope this helps,
Post # 7
I don’t like M____________________ I much prefer to put name(s). What do we think of this one??
The favor of a
reply is requested
before July 24, 2013
___ accepts ___ regrets
Post # 8
Far more casual (does that line up with your Wedding vision & the rest of your Invite Suite ?)
But ya it works.
Post # 9
yes, we’re a little more casual with many of the wedding ‘rules’.