Help with STD etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?
    Leave it, most of your guests know : (0 votes)
    Add the tag : (16 votes)
    100 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, the point of the STD is to let people know about the date and location, if it’s a DW.  Your guests have a lengthy trip to plan, and I think it’s best to modify them to ensure that everyone has been informed of the location of the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsBert:  I found out after printing my STDs that people could make reservations at our campsite venue online so used address labels and added that info to the back of mine. I was sending out STDs only to get the campground info out early so it was important for me to add it. 

    If everyone knows where it is already, I wouldn’t worry…but that’s just me. I am definitely not Little Miss Etiquette

    Post # 6
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MrsBert:  It’s up to you, but like a PP said the point of the save the date is to inform guests of the date and location. If mostly everyone knows that it will be in South Africa and you feel comfortable enough sending them without modifying it with location then send them. If you’d feel more comfortable adding the tag with the location, then I say do that. However, if you decide to leave the tag off, I’d probably suggest you at least add the tag for those guests who aren’t in South Africa and would have to travel to your wedding. 🙂

    Post # 7
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    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsBert:  If everyone knows where it is, then you don’t need save the dates anyways.  I think the location is very important, especially since there is the possibility for confusion.

    Post # 8
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    1649 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am not a fan of save-the-date cards at the best of time. One of their weaknesses is that they are cold and commercialized, compared to the older tradition of actually writing individual notes to your nearest and dearest apprising them of your plans.

    So you could sit down with a pen as you stick the stamps on, and write “looking forward to visiting home — Bertha”, and “See you in September in Capetown! — Bertha!” and “Can’t wait to be an Africa again  — Bertha!” across the corner of each card, simultaneously redeeming it from its impersonal mass-produced nature, and reminding people where the planned wedding is.

    Post # 9
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    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @aspasia475:  +1. OP, etiquette does not require save the dates. Call your close friends and family and tell them the details. 

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