- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I really need a place to vent. When we got engaged and made plans for a formal, evening wedding at a historic mansion, we immediately let my fiance’s sister know that we would prefer no children at the wedding and would be arranging for a babysitter at a close friend’s home about 1 mile from the venue. She seemed fine with this.
Fast forward to 6 weeks pre-wedding, when she informs us that she doesn’t understand our desire to not have children there, and says that we need to understand that they don’t use babysitters. She basically informed us that unless the kids could be there, she would not be attending the wedding, or at least her husband would not come.
So we changed plans, and arranged for the babysitters (a close friend’s 21 year old sisters) to be in an extra room at the mansion. We will have goody bags and the kids will be out of sight, out of mind (for me). Movies, play pen for the babes, etc. There will be three other children (all but one are cousins) here.
Today-I email my FSIL to tell her our plan with the goody bags, play pens, etc, and she writes this: “Hazel may sleep through the whole wedding, who knows. We may just have her in a carrier too but that would be great if we have a place to put her
down and some extra arms to hold her. Ava would love a movie or I’m
thinking she may like to hang out with our cousin Abby if she comes.”
BTW, cousin Abby is not coming, and even if she was, she’s 19 and does not want to babysit her 3 year old cousin all night.
What the heck do I do in this situation?