Help with untangling the rat's nest that used to be my hair

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
238 posts
Helper bee

@calisunshine3404:  I don’t have thin/straight hair, but a straight up curly mess!

I’ve found that wetting the hair and applying a moisturizing conditioner works wonders. Leave the conditioner in for 10-15 minutes and try to detangle with a wide tooth comb.

Hope this helps 🙂

Post # 4
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Hair mask? Hot oil treatment? Leave-in conditioner?

Post # 5
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

use a detangler or conditioner and let it sit it in your hair for a few minutes. start combing from the bottom and work your way up. if you start at the top and go down, you’ll only make the tangles worse.

Post # 6
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wet your hair put a handful of good conditionher in it and just gently comb the conditioner into your hair wiith your fingers. (if you have a snag skip it and apply the conditioner to the area your fingers snagged. Grab a Wide toothed comb and start brushing the knots from the bottom. I am the master at this I get knots so bad ALL THEM TIME.


Post # 8
36 posts

Don’t wait a couple of days!!!! The natural oils in your hair make it into a big matt! Not fun!

Post # 9
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@calisunshine3404:  this may be terribly gross, but mayonnaise works great as a conditioner. work it into your hair until you can freely brush through it, then rinse it out and shampoo.

I use Not Your Mother’s detangling spray and it works wonders – maybe an alternative if you don’t want to use conditioner-type products? 

Post # 10
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wash it then put a deep cream conditioner, then apply morrocan oil and loreal pear detangler. 

Post # 11
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I sit on the floor of my shower with a bottle of conditioner and a think toothed comb.. It takes ages though! Good luck! X 

Post # 12
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@calisunshine3404:  Try putting in a hair mask and leave it in your hair overnight… Also, after washing it, put some hair oil in your hair befor styling and combing it. That’s what helped me when my hair was a mess after an updo.

Post # 13
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I washed mine on my wedding night – couldn’t stand to leave it in.  Basically I took the pins out and finger-combed, then in the shower wet my hair and washed it, carefully, twice.  The first washing I was very gentle and not trying to really get down in there.  Second wash was pretty normal.  Conditioner both washes.  Worked fine for me.

Post # 14
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Use to apply  hair extension and work in a salon. Those thinga matt pretty bad.


in the shower use lots and lots of conditioner. 

Then with a paddle brush as anyother brush will take too long.

slowly brush in sections. Where possible hold onto your roots to stop the pain.


fastest method by far. Works magic. Most salons salons are lazy and cut these knots out of your hair rather than take the time.  Hope this helps.


*typed ona phone. Sorry about the typos.

Post # 15
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@calisunshine3404:  Try massaging it (dry) with coconut oil. coconut oil helps break up other products that still may be stuck in your hair (i use it to break up residual keratin glue that gets stuck to my hair after wearing my keratin tipped extensions for a few months) and it’s also a natural conditioner. Massage it in, concentrating on tangled areas, and leave it over night.

Wash it out the next morning with shampoo, squeeze out excess water, and then do a deep conditioning treatment.

IMPORTANT: Choose the deep treatment carefully as you need to determine whether your hair needs protien or straight moisture (too little protien and hair is weak, but too little and it becomes brittle).if it feels mushy or gummy when wet, that means you need protein. if it feels limp and brittle when dry, you need moisture.

You can also do a strand stretch test to tell you what you need — take a non-tangled strand of hair while wet to see which you need. take the strand and with two fingers, pull it in opposite directions as if you were stretching it. If it stretches ever so slightly and then goes back to its original state, your hair is pretty balanced and you should be ok with a conditioner that doesnt boast “reparative” (which usually means heavy protein).

Read ingredients carefully — if your testing has revealed that you need moisture and NOT protein, PLEASE make sure you use a deep moisturizing conditioner that does not contain a tone of wheat protein or whatever. you will risk over protein-ing yoru hair and it will be super brittle and prone to breakage when you go to de-tangle it. DO NOT opt for a hot oil treatment or oil anything at this point BEFORE or INSTEAD of conditioner. oil coats hair and locks in moisture/protein, so if you oil without or before conditioning, you’re not properly treating the hair.

Apply your deep conditioner and soak a towel in hot/warm water and wrap it around your head to intensify the effects of the deep conditioner. leave it on as long as you can. Rinse it out and then towel dry your hair. if you have it, i would recommend using an oil such as morroccon oil to lock in the treatment you just did and protect the hair from drying and styling. gently comb it thru as much as you can avoiding the big tangled areas.

Dry your hair thouroughly, aim the dryer in a downward motion as much as possible, and finish with a cold blast to seal the cuticle. Then and ONLY then brush out the hair thrououghly and work out the knots with your fingers. have a friend of hairstylist help if you can because they can see what they are doing and get a better angle.

DO NOT attempt to brush or detangle. it when its wet, even though it may feel like it will be easier to untangle. hair is in its weakest state when its in a damp state and will be stronger after being conditioned, treated, and sealed. you WILL lose some hair through the detangling process, but humans naturally lose like 50+ strands a day. it will feel like youre losing a ton but its not that bad.

good luck 🙂

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