HELP with wording/what to call party!? Not everyone invited to wedding!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

futurefam:  She could invite her friends to meet her new daughter-in- law.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

ugh?  Usually the dinner part is the head count problem.  If they are invited to the dinner not sure why you wouldn’t invite them to the wedding.  That dosn’t cost extra.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I don’t know exactly how you would word it but you could call it exactly what it is: a meet and greet. 

Label it as the “Smith and Davidson Meet and Greet” (obviously swapping out for your surnames haha)

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

futurefam:  OK.  I missed thatin the OP.  I’d just call it a dinner party.  All the introducing to our family blah blah blah imply you want gifts and I think people will feel obligated to get your stuff.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

futurefam:  One describes it as “dinner”. And yes, the guests of honour can be named as either “In honour of” or as “to meet”. If it is formal one writes in black ink on white paper with centred lines:

In honour of Miss Future Fam

Mr and Mrs John Motherinlaw

request the pleasure of the company of

Mr and Mrs Charles Guest

to dinner

on Thursday the second of October

at eight o’clock.

If the party is informal, she writes a normal note along the lines of

Dear Carol and Bill,

John and I are hoping you can join us for dinner on Thursday 2 October, at 8:00. Jack’s fiancee Future is going to be joining us that night, and I would love to have you meet her.

Love Mary

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

futurefam:  A very, very high stickler for propriety would probably refrain from inviting guests “in honour of” her own close relative, and her family friends probably have already met her son and do not need “to meet” him again. But chances are that few, if any, normal folk really care about such a fine detail, especially if it makes you feel more comfortable to be a little less in the spotlight.

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