helping bridesmaids

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@kshepa20:  My BMs all spent MAYBE 80 bucks total? 60/75 for their custom dresses and then whatever tan shoe they could find (that cost was their choice). They will then do their own hair/make-up

If you REQUIRE hair and makeup then I would pay for it. Beyond dress and shoes I think it is the brides job to pay 

Post # 4
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@kshepa20:  Ask each of them what budget they are comfortable to be within and stick to that.  You can find more affordable dresses that still are very pretty without going the “traditional” bridesmaid dress from a bridal store.  They can all wear their own jewelry and shoes, they don’t need to be clones.

If you absolutely want them to have pro hair and makeup, you should really be covering it.  If it is merely an option and they can choose to do their own to keep costs down, then you don’t have to pay for it.

Post # 5
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

your BMs should really not spend money on Jewlery nails and hair for you – that’s on you.

Post # 6
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kshepa20:  If you are requiring professionally done hair, nails  and makeup, then, yes you should be paying for that.

I think $250-$300 is enough for any bridesmaid to spend on shoes and dress for your wedding. They can wear their own jewelry or you can provide what you want them to wear.

Many bridesmaids have expenses over and above the dress and shoes- bridal shower(s), wedding gift etc.

Post # 7
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i agree with the previous posters. if you require hair/nails/makeup, then you should pay for it.

the only thing i required for my girls was their dress and their bolero. they wore shoes that they already had (luckily, they all had shoes in the color i wanted), i let them do whatever they wanted with their hair/nails/makeup (only 1 girl decided to have her hair professionally done), and they wore whatever jewelry they wanted. and i also told them not to get us a gift.

Post # 8
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with PPS. It’s fine to ask them to pay for their own dress. And maybe okay to ask them to get shoes (although I’ve always just been told a color and then been able to find a shoe in that color in my price range). It is not okay to ask them to spend money on professional hair, nails and makeup. They can probably do just fine themselves. If you want those things professionally done, you should pay for them.

Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would pay for their hair and nails, especially if you want them to get all that professionally done. I didn’t pay for my girls because it wasn’t a “condition” of them being a bridesmaid that they had to have it done in a salon.

Post # 10
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If you require hair, nails, etc you should chip in or pay that, as some of them might prefer not to do nails, and or hair?  I’ve been a BM 4 times, and have always done my own hair and makeup, and I dont paint my nails 🙂

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