Post # 1
I am having four bridesmaids my three sisters and my future sister in law. My father will be paying fir my younger sister. As for the other three they will be paying for everything themselves. After calculating everything Hair nails makeup shoes and jewelry I think they will be looking at About $450. They all at least two kids no good job and two live at Home. I originally had no intention on helping since that’s apart of agreeing to be a bridesmaid but now I feel a little guilty. None of them have complained but I still feel bad. I would prefer not to Lee my standards by allowing them to do their own hair nails and makeup so should I be paying for that. How much was your bridesmaids costs and did you help them out?
Post # 3
@kshepa20: My BMs all spent MAYBE 80 bucks total? 60/75 for their custom dresses and then whatever tan shoe they could find (that cost was their choice). They will then do their own hair/make-up
If you REQUIRE hair and makeup then I would pay for it. Beyond dress and shoes I think it is the brides job to pay
Post # 4
@kshepa20: Ask each of them what budget they are comfortable to be within and stick to that. You can find more affordable dresses that still are very pretty without going the “traditional” bridesmaid dress from a bridal store. They can all wear their own jewelry and shoes, they don’t need to be clones.
If you absolutely want them to have pro hair and makeup, you should really be covering it. If it is merely an option and they can choose to do their own to keep costs down, then you don’t have to pay for it.
Post # 5
your BMs should really not spend money on Jewlery nails and hair for you – that’s on you.
Post # 6
@kshepa20: If you are requiring professionally done hair, nails and makeup, then, yes you should be paying for that.
I think $250-$300 is enough for any bridesmaid to spend on shoes and dress for your wedding. They can wear their own jewelry or you can provide what you want them to wear.
Many bridesmaids have expenses over and above the dress and shoes- bridal shower(s), wedding gift etc.
Post # 7
i agree with the previous posters. if you require hair/nails/makeup, then you should pay for it.
the only thing i required for my girls was their dress and their bolero. they wore shoes that they already had (luckily, they all had shoes in the color i wanted), i let them do whatever they wanted with their hair/nails/makeup (only 1 girl decided to have her hair professionally done), and they wore whatever jewelry they wanted. and i also told them not to get us a gift.
Post # 8
I agree with PPS. It’s fine to ask them to pay for their own dress. And maybe okay to ask them to get shoes (although I’ve always just been told a color and then been able to find a shoe in that color in my price range). It is not okay to ask them to spend money on professional hair, nails and makeup. They can probably do just fine themselves. If you want those things professionally done, you should pay for them.
Post # 9
I would pay for their hair and nails, especially if you want them to get all that professionally done. I didn’t pay for my girls because it wasn’t a “condition” of them being a bridesmaid that they had to have it done in a salon.
Post # 10
If you require hair, nails, etc you should chip in or pay that, as some of them might prefer not to do nails, and or hair? I’ve been a BM 4 times, and have always done my own hair and makeup, and I dont paint my nails 🙂