Post # 1
My fiance and I have decided to have a small wedding, but 100% of guests will have to travel (most are from the same state). Attendees will range in age, as will their financial resources. I have heard of couples helping their friends/family pay for accommodations and travel and we want to do the same. We decided that it was much more important to have friends/family with us than all the little details that don’t matter to us.
With that said, we won’t be hiring a photographer, no catering, very very few decorations, no new expensive dress clothes, etc.
Since we are also limited on our budget, we want to distribute our help where it is most needed. This is where I need help. I haven’t been able to find anything on the internet about subsidizing guest accommodations at weddings on a sliding scale.
Some of our friends will be able to pay without a thought as to the cost. Others would have to save up for a year in order to pay for 2 nights + airfare at our chosen place. But we don’t want to offend our poorer friends and upset other moderately to well-off friends by not helping them.
How do we approach this?
Post # 3
@loveyes: I thought about this same exact thing. SO & I are planning on having a DW (whenever he decides to PROPOSE, Lol) and we’re only planning on having immediate family and a few friends. Some of my friends will be able to pay their own way with no prob, but there’s a few that may need some help. I want to make sure that no one’s offended though. So I will definitely be looking forward to hear ideas on this one..
Post # 4
We are still in the early planning phase, so my suggestions are just hypotheticals…
Gift of airline “bucks” – If you can’t drive to your DW (if you can drive, work on the carpooling!), maybe give a christmas/b-day present of an airline “gift card” to the friends that will need it.
Sharing “hotel suites” – we maybe be getting a few rooms/suites and we will ask people who need help to share with others.
I guess the overall theme I am shooting for is that, if they need help, we will give it to them, but it won’t be “top notch” (i.e. our friends who can afford to pay on their own will have their own room, etc, while the grad school friends will be bunking together). And to be honest, the friends that need help will be happy to share a room, whereas the friends/family that can afford it will be much happier in a room of their own.
Post # 5
@Rock Hugger: I love your idea about renting a few rooms solely for sharing!!! I didn’t even think of doing that. Thank you so much!