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    MissSophisticatedFemme    April 2012   San Diego, Ca

    So, I know alot of you beeshave helped you FI pick out the e-ring for yourself... I need advice on that. My BF and I are in the waters for maybe it being soon, but the last time we talked about e-rings we were much younger, and my ideas have changed a little bit. I would love to go look at e-rings with him. I have talked with him recently about getting married, that I am ready to take that step, and I am ok with a long engagment, so we could plan properly and make sure we have the money for it.

    I guess my question is, how do I bring it up to him, about looking at rings, without him feeling pressured. I don't want him to feel like I am pressuring him into asking me now, I just thought it would be nice if we looked, and get ideas of what we want, etc.

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    I would just drop in that you wanted to let him know your tastes have changed in regards to your E ring, and that you want to give him fair warning. Maybe give him an inspiration pic, and decide on what level of input you'll have from there. 

    For me, I approved and made the final decision every step of the way. I'm just too picky to have it any other way! I don't regret it for a second, because our jeweler, who is R's sister's FIL, tried to push some really ugly rings on him. 

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    What I used to do was just walk slowly past a jewellry store window and look in the window and point out styles that I liked. I don't know if that's a technique that you could possibly use?

     
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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    I was lucky and DH asked me to help him.. thank goodness.. lol!

    Does the topic of marriage come up often?  If so I would just bring it up then.  Just tell him that you would love to go ring shopping sometime with him sometime so you can get an idea of what you like.  Or.. do you want to look at rings with me online.  It will be fun :)

    If it doesn't come up and you feel afraid you'll pressure him by suggesting ring shopping, etc.  I would start dropping subtle hints.  Point out friends rings that you like.  Or look up celebrity rins and say something like.. oh my God honey, I saw a pic of Angelina's ring today and I am so in love with that style.. look at this rock.  MissMoo's suggestion of looking in store windows is great too.  Even looking at cheap jewelry at Kohls or something might help give him an idea of the style you like.

    Good luck!

     
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    MissSophisticatedFemme    April 2012   San Diego, Ca

    Thanks girls. We talk about marriage quite often, but even more so lately. When we were younger, i had no problem suggesting rings to him, since we were not ready for marriage at all. But now that we are getting closer, I want to suggest it to him, without him feeling pressured.

     

    I think I may bring it up. We are going on vacation in Nor Cal wine country next month, maybe i will suggest it when we are there. Just to look. ;-)

     

    Thanks bees!

     

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