Post # 1
Yesterday was my engagement party and my parents missed it. This was not at ALL by their choice. Their flight from Chicago got delayed over 9 hours. They were so distraught it was hard for me to handle. I know they both felt terrible.
My mom is still an emotional wreck and I feel so awful. Does anyone have any advice as to what I could say to her? I feel bad enough that they missed it that I dont know how to help her. I’m trying to be supportive and say “At least it wasn’t my wedding” or “we’ll do it again!” but she is a wreck!
Post # 3
Could your parents take you and your Fiance for a nice dinner, just the four of you, as a congratulations? Tell her it’s even better that way, since you’ll not be distracted by other people and you can have the quality, uninterrupted time together.
Congrats on the engagement, by the way 🙂
Post # 4
I second the family dinner idea.
Post # 6
Is it possible to have another, smaller party ? Like a family and close friends BBQ ? Or as the PP suggested. Wine. Lots of it.
Post # 7
that’s too bad 🙁 give her a little time to calm down and definitely suggest a nice dinner or picnic for the four of you. reassure her that you don’t hold anything against them and it was circumstances beyond their control. maybe they just need to hear that again
Post # 8
As a Mom myself, I do understand her frustration / ire… she is ANGRY with the Airlines (who isn’t) and she is UPSET that she wasn’t there for such an important event in YOUR life (something she can’t get back)
Therefore I suggest that you have a heart-to-heart with her… tell her the E-Party was pretty big and impersonal… you are THRILLED to have her here to celebrate this Milestone in your life with you… doesn’t have to be JUST THE PARTY
Then ask her what she as a Mom might like to do with you to mark the occasion? A Wedding is such a HUGE undertaking… bet you guys could think of something to do together that “gets the ball rolling”… look at Invites, Churches, Venues, Dresses… Clothes, China, Housewares… the list is really endless.
And oh ya, Dinner is a FABULOUS idea. Go out and celebrate the occasion just with your Mom & Dad and Fiance. You guys have soooo much to be thankful for (excited about)
Hope this helps,
PS… Here is another “old fashioned” idea from my era. Don’t know if you have E-Photos planned, but back in the day, an Engagement was a time when the B&G would go out and have a formal portrait taken… you could bring along your Parents to the sitting, and take a couple of additional pics (both couples, you with them, the two of them alone) etc.
Now THAT WOULD BE A SUPER SPECIAL EVENT to mark the occasion.
Post # 9
I love the idea of going out to dinner with just the four of us! Especially since I want my fiance to check out my favorite restaurant as a potential rehersal dinner site 🙂
My Mom said that she wants to throw us another party. Mostly so she can hang out with/meet our friends. I think thats above and beyond what is expected and i feel totally blessed with such great parents!
Post # 10
@NVACat: Your mom sounds lovely! If another dinner doesn’t work with your friend’s schedules, maybe invite your mom and some friends to get pedicures together- lots of girly bonding there.