(Closed) Helppppp…Need some advice.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
46264 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is it posible to extend an open invitation to the ceremony only? I have been to weddings where this was done . All the church ladies got to see the bride wed, but the couple didn’t have to fill up their reception with people they do not know well, other than through the church.

Post # 5
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Same as julies, belonging to a church where a wedding ceremony is seen as a church event/sermon open to the whole congregation is one of the few situations where from an etiquette standpoint, it’s ok to not offer every person who attends the ceremony an invite to the reception. 

From a drama perspective though, I don’t know… I think even church people would have to realize that it’s incredibly expensive to invite every person you go to church with to your wedding.

Post # 6
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Perhaps have something RIGHT after the ceremony in a fellowship hall or something with cake and punch for everyone you “invite” in the open invite to church members and have the “real” reception for specific invite only close people after that? 

Post # 7
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The only thing I could think of that might work is offering a “cake and punch” reception after Sunday service the week you get married.  Invite your family and close friends to the regular reception, and then set up an open invite at the church for everyone.  Something like “Mr. Bear and Mrs. Bear tied the knot on _______date.  They would like to invite their church family to celebrate with them after sundays service.  Please join them for a cake and punch reception at _____ oclock.”  if your church has a fellowship hall, Ideally you would be paying for the cake, punch and some paper products.  If possible you could use some centerpieces or decoration from the wedding.  If anyone asks about the reception immediately after the wedding be honest and say “we would have loved to invite everyone, but money is tight.  We really hope you’ll join us Sunday.” 

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