- 5 years ago
Hi fellow bees,
I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP!
Have been following the site a few months now. Here’s my first post. It’s embarassing- but I need your help. OK here goes nothing: SO and I have been together for a year. I know a year does not seem like long, but it’s one of those really intense, things-go-fast relationships, were you just know. As in I spoke to his parents 3 weeks in, we never had a “non-exclusive” dating period, talked mariage right from the start. Now I’ve had a relationghip before my current So, which taught me exactly what I want and don’t want in a partner. I am 20, a law graduate student, and SO is 27, business-savy, but had to put career on hold due to some immigration issues. So although we know we’re getting married, and engaged within the next year at most, we can’t go ahead and get engaged right now (we’ve both discussed that had the immigration not been an issue we would be getting engaged right now..)
NOW ENOUGH BLABERING. HERES THE ISSUE.
after obsessing over ring porn on WeddingBee, I discovered Moissanite, and have searched everywhere to find a place that sells it, so I can see it in person. Call me old-fashioned but I would be really afraid to just order it online (that’s just me though-lol scaredy cat). SOOOO I finally found a jeweler who is a retailer for Charles & Covard. I called them and made an appointment to go in and just take a look at any old ring (just to see if the stone is a look I like), no intention or ordering, buying, setting aside, nada.
Don’t I go in and the guy actually has the ring that i’ve been dreaming about… So he asked when I’m getting engaged, I said not for 2-3 months (shameless lie-:() only so he would take me seriously and give me a price quote for me to get an idea for the future if moissy is what I will eventually want- or not.
SO NOW one thing led to another, I got a price quote, and he ordered me a sample just to try on (I want rose gold- the show one was white)… Now I know I’m not obligated to buy anything, but how do I tell the guy it’s not for right now without fucking everything up… like i mean I know that’s where I’m gonna send my SO to buy my ring in the next year… HHHHHEEEEELLLLPPPP (and I don’t wanna say financial problems or wtv just in case the jeweler tells my bf or something…. :s)