HELP!The pill, condoms, and…?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
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  • Post # 2
    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    As long as you are using it *correctly* one method is fine.  If you are taking the pill at the same time, every day, without fail, you have less than 1% chance of pregnancy.   If the condoms additionally put you more at ease, that is more than enough protection.  Again, with *perfect use* condoms alone are over 95% effective.  From personal experience I’ve been off birth control for years and only using condoms and have never had any issue (knock on wood).  But again, perfect use.  Putting it on correctly, changing between, using it ever single time.  Both methods are very very effective if you use them correctly.  Don’t stress! 🙂

    Post # 3
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999


    <h1 id=”page-title” class=”title”>(Combined Oral Contraceptives</h1>

    It depends on when you start the pill, whether or not you need to use additional protection in your first cycle, and if so, for how long.

    1. First Day of Period Start: Start your pills on the first day of your period. Continue to take one pill every day at the same time. With this method, you do not need to use a backup method as the pills are effective in preventing pregnancy right away.

    2. Quick Start: Take your first pill today at a good time for you. Continue to take one pill every day at the same time. With this method, you need to use backup pregnancy protection (such as condoms or abstinence) for at least 7 days.

    3. Sunday Start: Take your first pill on the first Sunday following the start of your period. If your period starts on a Sunday, start your pill that day. Continue to take one pill every day at the same time. With this method, you need to use backup pregnancy protection (such as condoms or abstinence) for at least 7 days.

    Lots of good information here:

    Post # 4
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I would say its personal preference, but there shouldn’t be any actual need to use condoms when you’re on the pill unless you are not consistent with taking them. If you miss a day or take it late, you may want to have condoms available as back up. Other than that, the pill is like 95% effective (or something like that, maybe higher) so you shouldn’t need a condom– especially because you’ve been on them for around a month.

    Post # 5
    2593 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    For many people, pills OR condoms are enough.  But accidents CAN and do happen.  A lot of people choose to double (or triple) up on birth control.  Again, though, accidents CAN and do happen.  I know several people who have gotten pregnant on birth control, a couple of which were using multiple foms of birth control.  

    DH and I used the pill, condoms, and VCF (vaginal contraceptive film – basically it’s a spermacide you insert – feels almost plastic-y but it’s not, and it disolves) until we were ready to TTC.  How much protection you use would partially depend on how adamant you are that an “Oops Baby” can’t happen.

    Post # 6
    127 posts
    Blushing bee

    I was told by my doctor that two forms is the way to go if you really aint about that kid life right now. SO and I are most comfortable layering protection, but we’ve done just condoms when I forgot my pills at home on vacation. He will always use a condom forever because that’s just how he do.

    All that being said, the pill is 98% effective when used correctly  according to the FDA and it definitely is good enough alone if you are comfortable with that.


    Post # 7
    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015 - The Lodge at Mackenzie Place

    The questions you should ask yourself are:  Do I remember to take my pill at the same time everyday?  Do I feel comfortable trusting in a hormone pill, or would I feel more comfortable with a physical barrier in addition?  If you are having doubts in your method of birth control, please consult with your doctor about what else you can do to prevent an unplanned addition to your family.  There are plenty of methods that can work for you and your partner, and after you consumate your married life, you might find comfort in one or two methods.  But the best place to find those answers are with your partner and doctor…good luck to you and your pending nuptials!

    Post # 8
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I use the pill & condoms usually.  We have tried pulling out instead of condoms as well.

    I have health issues where and if I ended up pregnant I would get an abortion due to a med I’m on & the risk pregnancy would put on me, but I would have more risks than the average person for an abortion too.

    I trust the pill just as much as I trust condoms, but I just really don’t want to be pregnant!

    Post # 9
    7282 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    janet.little.7:  You should never have unprotected sex (so no condom) with anyone until you both have had and passed an STI check. You don’t have to have had intercourse to have an STI.

    Post # 10
    3988 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    janet.little.7:  I was on the pill for 8 years. When I was single and just dating I ALWAYS used condoms too, but that was for extra safety and protection against STIs (I didn’t date many guys anyway, but I like being cautious). DH and I used condoms as well as the pill for close to the first year we dated, but then relied solely on the pill from then on out with absolutely no issues. There were only about 2-3 times I forgot to take a pill and I always informed him right away and we would abstain for a day or two until back on track. The pill was incredibly reliable for us and I just recently got off BCPs in April to prep my body for TTC. I think one method should be enough, but using both the pill and condom is just fine until you’re comfortable with the idea. 

    Post # 12
    7025 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    janet.little.7:  I think pill + condoms + pullout is rather excessive. I’d say the pill is very reliable and the condom is just a little extra insurance. We went a few years using condom-only, no problems, though I wouldn’t recommend it starting out.

    Sorry for the TMI, but in the early days he might have trouble controlling himself enough to pull out anyway.

    Post # 13
    2313 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013


    janet.little.7:  I was in the same situation as you, not having sex until we were married. I went onto the pill but my husband still wanted to use condoms (he’d never had sex without one) but there was one time quite early on that we didn’t use one and from that moment on we were just using the pill. I never got pregnant. We are now solely using condoms as the pill disagreed with me. I have not gotten pregnant yet.

    So as long as you are using the pill correctly there is no real need to use condoms (apart from as PP mentioned, if you both haven’t been checked for STIs).

    Using a condom, the pill AND pulling out is a bit excessive – what they’re saying is they don’t trust their birth control. If you don’t trust something, don’t use it!

    Post # 14
    7664 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    The pill alone will prevent pregnancy effectively, if used correctly. The pill plus condoms will give you insurance. Pulling out as well not only seems excessive to me, but the pull out method is notoriously ineffective as a method of birth control anyway.

    Post # 15
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015


    janet.little.7:  I think PPs have covered it, but to second the advice.  A pill taken correctly (around about the same time very day) will give an effectivness of 99% (ie one woman per 100 will get pregnant in a year) because you’ve already been taking it for 22 days it will be working as a contraceptive now.  Condoms are added insurance, but aren’t necessary really if you’ve both been checked for STIs.  And withdrawing certainly isn’t necessary

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