Post # 1
So an old neighbor of my families – keeps texting/calling me for the date of my wedding so she can plan her daughter’s baby shower around my wedding date – because she thinks that they are all invited to my wedding, however they are not. I don’t want to be rude and tell them they are not invited……but I’m not sure what to do. Just not send an invitation?………tell them?……….I’m clueless……any advice?
background – I was best friends with her daughter for a long time, our friendship has since fell apart, after trying for 3 years to get it back, I decided to stop trying because it seems like it is only a loss to me – also on the advice of friends, family and my Church Pastor………..so its weird because we never had a conversation discussing any of it……just grew apart.
I made my decision on my bridal party and invite list based on my relationships in the present and not the past in order to avoid having a lot of people that I have not seen or talked to in a while.
Post # 3
Have you been talking about your wedding with her? Cease all wedding talk immediately.
Post # 4
Be honest. That’s all you can do. If you really don’t want to extend them an invite tell them between FI’s family and your family there just isn’t room on the guest list.
But I’m curious what you have been telling her in the meantime when she keeps calling/texing.
Post # 5
havent talked to either of them since September. I texted back the date today, otherwise, I’ve been avoiding it. Honestly they are just nosy and in comparison, they just want to make sure that everything they had is better than what I had, in which case it will be! They spent 130K on the wedding, 30K on the shower!! That is a waste to me! I am a bride on a budget.
Post # 6
Let them know that because of budget or space contraints you weren’t able to include everyone you would have liked… plain and simple.
Post # 7
Maybe the just want to do something nice for you. But do be honest and say I was planning on only having family and a few friends because of budget….
Post # 8
When people start asking for my wedding date or want to hint around to see if they are invited, me and my Fiance tell people that we haven’t finalized anything, or we haven’t planned that far. We do say its in September…. but avoid saying the exact date unless they press the date issue.
Post # 9
I told people that due to budget restrictions, we decided to have a small wedding with just family and very few friends. That’s not exactly true, but we are having less than 50 people at our wedding.