- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hi I am having Bridesmen instead of Bridesmaids because They have all had a big part of my life so long.
However does this mean that they should come/plan my hens night?
When I asked them about it they said they didnt want to come because they don’t want to ruin the “girly fun” and because they don’t want to miss out on the bucks night as we will be the first in our group to get married and it will be the first bucks night they will ever have gone to.
My issue is that my “girly fun” will be with just their girlfriends (who I am not really close to) and one of my only close girlfriends as I don’t really have alot of people I want to invite. I also feel that if I do ask them to come to my hens night they will expect to bring thier girlfriends as its a girls event and be very couply all night which will leave me single and lonely instead of celebrating.
Secondly my SO doesnt really want them to come to his bucks night as he feels there not “HIS” friends their mine and while he gets along with them he doesnt always enjoy thier company and does’nt want them to “Bring the mood down” when they go out.
I feel a little hurt should I do two things or plan my own? I don’t expect them to know what to do but I feel a little snubbed that they don’t want to be an important event like this. Am I wrong?