Post # 1
Perhaps I am overreacting…I probably am. But my Mother-in-law to be has been completely disinterested in the wedding plans since we got engaged. She is divorced and in a new relationship and that has really been her focus. She has literally not a dime to her name so she can’t contriubute to the wedding at all so it’s all up to my parents and my groom and I. Somehow she managed to find $600 to purchase her gown for the wedding. My gown was $1200.
My gown is a sweetheart, strapless with assymetrical pleats across the bodice and goes into some “organized pick-ups” at the skirt. It’s an A-line, it comes with a rhinestone-ey belt. My mother-in-law to be came bursting into our condo beyond excited at her dress purchase. I didn’t want my groom to know what my gown looks like…so i couldn’t say anythign to him. Her dress is bascially my gown, shape, fit etc…in a light/metallic olive green! And the bodice is COVERED in sequins! All my gown has is a beaded rhinestone belt! So not only did she purchase a gown that she couldn’t afford when she has “no money”…but it looks just like my gown but with more detail! Are you kidding me?? I had JUST shown her a picture of me in my gown earlier that same day before she went dress shopping. So she knew. The lady at the store told her it was “her day too”. Really? I’m confused…I thought it was my groom’s and MY day? Too late to say anything now…her dress was non-refundable.
Post # 3
everyone will still know that you’re the bride. at least her gown isn’t white, right? 🙂 i totally hear you about the formality of her dress, but seriously, people will be focused on you and i’m sure your dress is gorgeous.
Post # 4
well, she’s going to look ridiculous! take comfort in knowing that. lol
Post # 5
That would make me mad too. But honestly everyone will be looking at her like why is she so dressed up?! If my friends saw that they would come up to me and say did you see what she was wearing?! They would def point it out and i would def explain to them what she did! 😉 And if anyone else even notices she is going to be the one that looks weird!
Post # 6
Watch the beginning of “The Mirror Has Two Faces” when Lauren Bacall enters at Mimi Rogers’ wedding and laaauuuugghhh. Honestly–it is annoying and I can understand your irritation, but in the end, this is something to laugh off. It IS your mom’s day too because she’s your mother, but there’s no way she’s going to upstage you.
Not to be too guilt-harboring, but a little perspective: when your mother is gone, I guarantee you will pull out the pictures of you in near-matching dresses and miss her.
Post # 7
I agree, people will be focused on you. And when people see her gown they’ll probably laugh to themselves about how fancy it is and wonder what the hell she was thinking.
Post # 8
she’s going to look a) ridiculous, and b) like a brat who can’t deal with attention not being on her. just brush it off, girl, it’s YOU & YOUR GROOM’S day only!
Post # 9
I agree with everyone! It’s clear who the bride is going to be (you’re the one wearing the awesome white dress), and the fact that your MIL is going to be wearing one similar is going to make her look like she’s trying to upstage you. Most people will look down on that and think what a sad person she must be to have to do that.
Post # 10
She’s going to look ridiculous, I agree. Nothing you can do about it now, but wait for all the whispers and “omg check out your MIL!!!!” whispers.
Might be fun. 😀
Post # 11
@JennyW1: well, since it is her MIL not her mother, I doubt she will have those feelings as strongly, but i get what you are saying
Post # 12
That would have aggravated me a little too. The main focus will be on you and your groom that day. Trust, no one will think her gown looks better than your’s.
Post # 13
You are younger (I’m assuming) and you will look much better! You will be the star of the show and the only one in white!
Post # 14
i wouldnt worry about it.. she will look silly and overdressed and she isnt the one people are coming to see… you will look better than her no matter how many sequins her dress has
Post # 15
Well that was the simple reassurance I needed! Yes, given that it’s my MIL and she is just not interested, I guess i’m being a little petty. But I iwll enjoy everyone thinking she went a little overboard with the crystals the day of
Just have to make sure MY mom looks great too..which will most assuredly happen! I appreciate everyone’s comments! I’m new to this and I feel so welcome!