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Only my aunt Doris (who's 99) stood up. Guess she was the only one who remembered that little tradition! It only annoyed me for a second though, cause two seconds later I only had eyes for DH.
@Panda Pez: Try not to worry about it. As you said, it means that no one's view was blocked and that you will have better pictures.
Of all the things to go wrong, this is by far the best because it has silver lining.
Some people are just clueless about weddings and too shy to take initiative and stand up first.
It used to happen all the time at my high school. We would have a mass, the principle, vice and school captains would stand at the correct times throughout the mass, but people didn't follow their lead. I was always the one to stand out of 800 people, give others the "get UP!" stare and finally get the crowd moving.
Hm, I actually can't remember if anyone was standing up or not! I didn't even think of it! But, you're right about it probably making your photos come out better because no one was blocking :)
@linguo42: Aww, how sweet! I honestly had no idea "in the moment" - I was overwhelmed with joy and the look on my Mr's face 
I went to a wedding where no one sat down after the bride came in. I eventually sat since it was outside and my heels we sinking into the grass, but most of the guest stood for the entire ceremony since no one told us to sit down.
@mzlouis2b: Yikes! See, that sounds a bit worse hahaha. High heels in grass can be tricky
@Tickles: - Haha, good point! Thanks. It's easy to forget the fact that most of our guests aren't consumed in wedding blog land like us.
I dont think people would have stood up if my officiant hadnt signaled. We didnt use traditional music either so there wasnt a real cue for guests
Wow! That's surprising. I thought it was like a social norm that people would stand up when the bride enters. I have been to some weddings were the guests stood as soon as the bridal party walked in, but they remained standing for the bride too.
We had the opposite thing happen, everyone stood up and didn't sit down!! Apparently, my brother (officiant) didn't tell everyone to be seated, so they didn't/ I had no idea this happened til a couple weeks after the wedding! Luckily, the ceremony was only about 10 mins long
Honestly, I think I'd be relieved if no one stood up. Then I could see my FI and wouldn't feel as awkward.
It could be worse! You could have come out at the wrong time! I went to a wedding and the bridesmaids started walking out and then the bride. But there was no groom or groomsmen at the altar at all! The Pastor forgot to have them walk out with him! And then the music started playing for the girls so they just went! The bride got half-way down the asile until myself and another girl started yelling stop stop the groom isn't out yet! Talking about ruining your beautiful walk down the asile!
@MrsSl82be: Phew! 10 mins isn't that bad 
@vintage2010: Oh My! I would've been pretty darn' upset if that happened. Poor thing!
In certain South-Asian cultures, like mine, guests aren't really expected to stand up for the bride. Neither do we have a dress color code. I read somewhere that guests should refrain from wearing red color to a South-Asian wedding. However, that argument may not always be true because the color of the wedding dress can vary based on the region from which the bride belongs. And even if you wear the same color as the bride, generally, it is not considered a faux pas or disrespectful.
We had an inter-cultural wedding, and when my DH's family asked him about our "wedding colors," I was puzzled. :)
I just got my video this weekend, and the officiant had to tell people to stand. I'm not so sure they would have otherwise. There was a bit of a pause after the BMs came down the aisle--I'm pretty sure they knew who was coming next:)
@Panda Pez: This is something that confuses me when I go to weddings, and I have been to my fair share. I had one where I was the only person who stood, and that lasted for about ten seconds before I was yanked back down into my seat. So, I kind of wait for a que too. lol... but when I get married, I'm going to make it a point that it's known they should stand up lol...
So in a technical sense, the reason people stand at a wedding is because it's a mass, not because the bride is walking down the aisle. You are standing to honor the presence of God. Remaining seated as the bride walks down the aisle makes sense if the guests aren't already standing.
But I get that in the modern American wedding milieu, you are supposed to stand for the bride and I'm sorry no one stood for you :) At least your photos will have you as the focus, right ??
@Silentlove: YES! If you want your guests to stand, DEFINITELY make it a point. Learned my lesson...hehehe
Me neither - they stood when I was already about halfway. They must have been mesmerized by the beauty...;)
I think people don't know to stand or sit. I was thinking about putting this in my programs. Last wedding I went to everyone stood for bridesmaids and remained standing for bride. I don't think people understood...
@Miss Sequoia: Interesting. I always stand because how else can you see the bride?! I've honestly never thought about it, it's just something one does.
@Miss Sequoia: Thanks, these responses are definitely making me feel better. I've realized it's never really been a big deal to me, but more so I feel like I let down the social norm. I didn't want guests to leave and say, "That's so odd that no one stood up for the bride" - etc. But the more I think about it - we definitely went against tradition in many aspects of our wedding so this kind of goes along with it.
@PinkMagnolia: I think if you let your officiant know to give everyone the cue, you should be good.
And here I thought I was the only one this happened to! We were married a year ago, and it still bothers me mainly because we've been to a handful of weddings since then, and the guests stood for the bride all of those times. So it's like "Ok, you can stand for other people's weddings, why not mine?" What's worse is that my mother KNEW she was supposed to stand, but chose to wait for everyone else. She said she would've been embarrassed if she was the only standing. Turns out, the only one who was embarrassed was me. I too did not get married in a church, nor did I have traditional wedding music. I walked down the aisle to "Endless Love." I was also nervous and walked rather fast instead of walking gracefully. I also wasn't escorted by anyone (my father died when I was 14). No one apologized for this mishap, in fact, when I brought it up in front of my in-laws, my mother-in-law thought it was no big deal! Can you believe that?! Well it is a big deal, ask any bride.
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As many brides warn, your wedding day will be full of "oopsies" and ours was no different. But there is one in particular that is still bugging me...
NO ONE STOOD UP AS I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE!
It took a friend sending me a short clip of our ceremony for me to even realize this.
Here's what a few guests had to say:
Now, the blame can be placed on a few folks:
What's done is done, and I'm actually focusing on the positives: No one standing means no one was blocked giving them a great view AND the videographers/photographers probably have better shots.
Has this happened to any other bees out there?