Post # 1
As many brides warn, your wedding day will be full of “oopsies” and ours was no different. But there is one in particular that is still bugging me…
NO ONE STOOD UP AS I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE!
It took a friend sending me a short clip of our ceremony for me to even realize this.
Here’s what a few guests had to say:
- I wanted to stand up but was waiting on a cue of some sort
- You didn’t use traditional music for your entrance
- Thought you preferred us seated seeing it was outside, not a church
- I was stunned by your beauty! (Hahaha, NICE!)
Now, the blame can be placed on a few folks:
- Why didn’t the Reverend signal?
- I read that guests are supposed to follow my Mom’s lead. But my poor Mother was so flustered and truly had no idea that she was supposed to do so. She’s used to traditional Mexican weddings in a Church.
- Why didn’t the day of coordinator point this out during our rehearsal?
What’s done is done, and I’m actually focusing on the positives: No one standing means no one was blocked giving them a great view AND the videographers/photographers probably have better shots.
Has this happened to any other bees out there?
Post # 3
Only my aunt Doris (who’s 99) stood up. Guess she was the only one who remembered that little tradition! It only annoyed me for a second though, cause two seconds later I only had eyes for DH.
Post # 4
@Panda Pez: Try not to worry about it. As you said, it means that no one’s view was blocked and that you will have better pictures.
Of all the things to go wrong, this is by far the best because it has silver lining.
Some people are just clueless about weddings and too shy to take initiative and stand up first.
It used to happen all the time at my high school. We would have a mass, the principle, vice and school captains would stand at the correct times throughout the mass, but people didn’t follow their lead. I was always the one to stand out of 800 people, give others the “get UP!” stare and finally get the crowd moving.
Post # 5
Hm, I actually can’t remember if anyone was standing up or not! I didn’t even think of it! But, you’re right about it probably making your photos come out better because no one was blocking 🙂
Post # 6
@linguo42: Aww, how sweet! I honestly had no idea “in the moment” – I was overwhelmed with joy and the look on my Mr’s face
Post # 7
I went to a wedding where no one sat down after the bride came in. I eventually sat since it was outside and my heels we sinking into the grass, but most of the guest stood for the entire ceremony since no one told us to sit down.
Post # 8
@mzlouis2b: Yikes! See, that sounds a bit worse hahaha. High heels in grass can be tricky
Post # 9
@Everdeen: – Haha, good point! Thanks. It’s easy to forget the fact that most of our guests aren’t consumed in wedding blog land like us.
Post # 10
I dont think people would have stood up if my officiant hadnt signaled. We didnt use traditional music either so there wasnt a real cue for guests
Post # 11
Wow! That’s surprising. I thought it was like a social norm that people would stand up when the bride enters. I have been to some weddings were the guests stood as soon as the bridal party walked in, but they remained standing for the bride too.
Post # 12
We had the opposite thing happen, everyone stood up and didn’t sit down!! Apparently, my brother (officiant) didn’t tell everyone to be seated, so they didn’t/ I had no idea this happened til a couple weeks after the wedding! Luckily, the ceremony was only about 10 mins long
Post # 13
Honestly, I think I’d be relieved if no one stood up. Then I could see my FI and wouldn’t feel as awkward.
Post # 14
It could be worse! You could have come out at the wrong time! I went to a wedding and the bridesmaids started walking out and then the bride. But there was no groom or groomsmen at the altar at all! The Pastor forgot to have them walk out with him! And then the music started playing for the girls so they just went! The bride got half-way down the asile until myself and another girl started yelling stop stop the groom isn’t out yet! Talking about ruining your beautiful walk down the asile!
Post # 15
@MrsSl82be: Phew! 10 mins isn’t that bad
@vintage2010: Oh My! I would’ve been pretty darn’ upset if that happened. Poor thing!
Post # 16
In certain South-Asian cultures, like mine, guests aren’t really expected to stand up for the bride. Neither do we have a dress color code. I read somewhere that guests should refrain from wearing red color to a South-Asian wedding. However, that argument may not always be true because the color of the wedding dress can vary based on the region from which the bride belongs. And even if you wear the same color as the bride, generally, it is not considered a faux pas or disrespectful.
We had an inter-cultural wedding, and when my DH’s family asked him about our “wedding colors,” I was puzzled. 🙂