Post # 1
I have been engaged since September 2008 and my wedding is going to take place on September 12, 2009 about 4 hours away from where we live. For the last nine months of my engagement I have been extraordinarily calm, collected, and organized. With the exception of a few minor hiccups, I have handled this whole wedding planning deal with breeze. I booked all of my vendors by January and felt like the months leading up to the wedding would be fun and easy. Then, of course, the reality of the big day has hit me like a ton of bricks!! Between things falling through, dueling wedding coordintors, picky/opinionated relatives, trying to stay on budget while unexpected non-wedding related crises happen, and planning a wedding in a location 4 hours away I think I might truly lose my mind. While I hate, hate, hate to admit that I could actually became one of those crazy brides highlighted on the show Bridezillas, I am beginning to see it as a real possibility. Tomorrow I am going for my first dress fitting and I’m hoping that this will help calm my nerves at least some. Is anyone else feeling the pressure??
Post # 3
I think it’s natural. Some days I think wedding planning is a breeze and some days it seems like it’s going to be a horrible mess. I just had my first fitting today and I enjoyed it! I just took my FMIL with me (less people, less drama). Then her and I went to lunch and had a great day. Course, it helps that I adore my FMIL!
Just relax and enjoy the process.
Post # 4
I’m in pretty much that same boat. Engaged August 2008, getting married August 2009 and had a super easy first nine months. I have all of my vendors, my food picked, my cake picked, my dress, his suit, everyhting. But I am starting to seriously panic. It is all of the little things that are stressing me out now, like the ceremony and the vows and the seating arrangements if any etc…
Easier said than done, we need to relax. In the end it will all come together, you seem to be pretty organized and this is just another hiccup that should soon pass. Good luck!
Post # 5
I get frustrated sometimes over stupid things, like when my FI says he doesn’t like my ideas or when someone disagrees with me. How dare they?! About MY wedding?! MY WEdDING?! But it’s pretty fleeting. I’m pretty organized so I just take a deep breath and just keep chugging
Post # 6
Sept. 12th here too…I guess the three month mark is our time to stress! I have been called a Bridezilla already, and for what I think are such small requests! I want my bridesmaids in closed toe shoes because I don’t like the way feet look in formal pictures. I have one bridesmaid giving me a hard time. It’s only for pictures! She can wear flipflops after for all I care!
Then my sister/MOH upon seeing a picture of my cake said "ew, that’s ugly." She was just trying to get a reaction out of me (and being incredibly immature), but my family got upset with me for taking her too seriously! This is my WEDDING CAKE! If you want to joke, find a more appropriate topic!
I’ve had a couple emotional breakdowns about having no help and about people not understanding the importance of "the details." Oh yea, and I have one bridesmaid who is constantly asking me what the wedding party gifts will be! AAAHHHH!!!
Post # 7
Yikes!! My "maids" are pretty easy and I think I’m pretty flexible with them. I don’t really have any requirements for accessories. really the only request I have made is that my sister-in-law to be wear her hair in a simple up-do for the wedding. She is really beautiful but she normally styles her hair with lots of OOMPH and hair spray. It looks good, but I kind of want a more simple look for everyone–not so done up. Anyway, she gave me the look of death when I told her this, but I think she’ll do it…My biggest frustration is everyone telling me when I’ve made a bad choice…What are they thinking?? I’ve made my deposits and decisions and, hello, it’s MY wedding! Most of the people have had (at least) one wedding of their own and now its my turn to have it the way I want it!! Anyway, I love that I can vent all of this here and read about brides in similar situations!!
Post # 8
What you’re going through seems totally normal to me too and I must say, this is just the begining! You’re at the point where you’ll start finalzing and making sure everything is really set to go, so there are a few things that will pop up!
My advice – handle the problems as they come up. Do not push them off to the side, because then you’ll just dwell on them. Take care of it and move and and wait for the next thing! The next three months are going to fly by, but I can assure you that everything you’re doing now is totally worth it and you’ll be able to enjoy your day more!
GL and don’t forget to breathe!
Post # 9
I haven’t had any major complications so far, but it does add a general layer of stress. It’s this really big event in the future. Sometimes I find I can’t sleep at night because it’s always looming. It’s weird because it’s just a party – a wonderful day for you and the one you love, but some how we put so much pressure on ourselves.