To @His_missus: I am sorry to hear about your friend…
BUT I am sadder to see how much misinformation is in these replies
(I am BIG on sexual health, and people getting / knowing the right stuff)
As per the Mayo Clinic = http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/genital-herpes/AN01099
Can you get genital herpes from a toilet seat?
Answer – from James M. Steckelberg, M.D.
It’s very unlikely that you would get genital herpes from a toilet seat. Genital herpes is a sexually transmitted infection (STI) spread by skin-to-skin contact. In most cases, the virus enters your body through mucous membranes — the type of skin found in your mouth, genitals or anus. The virus can also enter your body through skin that has tiny scrapes or tears.
People can have genital herpes for years without knowing it. The virus can be spread even if an infected person has no genital sores. Because the virus dies quickly outside of the body, it’s nearly impossible to get the infection through contact with toilets, towels or other objects used by an infected person.
I’d say chances are SLIM to NONE…
No matter what anyone else here has stated.
SOMEONE in that relationship got it from SOMEONE else by skin to skin contact… sexual intercourse or otherwise
(And, it will settle into the genital area… which means SOMEONE was had contact with someone else’s genitalia… be that by hand (cut), mouth (cancer), or regualar old one-on-one sex)
The only other way, is if one of these two were born with it… possible… it was a big deal back in the 1980s… babies picking it up in the birth canal… BUT then I would imagine that that person has been “hiding” their health history from the other person, as they would have had a break out at some point in time
Infact, I’d say that one of these two is hiding something no matter what !!