Post # 1
I know this is going to sound so silly of me but it’s bugging me.
We are getting married in October. His wedding band came in while he was out of town. When he got home, he put the ring on.
He says he wants to wear it now. I didn’t want to question him and let it go.
I guess in my mind it some how loses it’s meaning at the ceremony if he’s already been wearing it.
Please tell me I’m being silly and I should be happy he so willing to wear his band proudly.
Post # 3
You should be happy that he wants to wear it! I think it’s cute.
Post # 4
While I think it is very sweet that he wants to wear his wedding band so soon, the wedding band is a symbol of being a married person, which he is not. . .yet.
That would bug me too, I think you just need to talk to him about it and tell him what you told us, how you feel it makes it less special.
Post # 5
You are definitely being silly. I don’t see anything wrong with him wearing his wedding band now.
As long as you are not superstitious about it then it is totally fine.
I mean afterall who ever said that the groom can’t have something on his finger during the engagement. I mean he is engaged too.
Post # 6
My FI was soo excited to wear his ring too he couldnt stand it – luckily it came a little too big so we had to send it back and the new one didnt come in till about a week before the wedding – but now he wears it proudly everyday – it makes me happy 🙂
i dont think i would have wanted him to wear it before the wedding – but be glad he is excited to be wearing it! some men hate wearing their wedding rings – i know my dad (married 37 years) hardly ever wears his.
Post # 7
I actually gave my FI a “promise ring” on our ‘pre-anniversary’–a year before our wedding day. He’s been wearing that ring on his left ring finger (only now pointer finger because it’s too big). I love it because, personally, I think a man in a wedding ring is SO sexy, and because I love the meaning behind his ring (it is a claddaugh ring with “mo anan cara” which means “my soulmate.” Once I get his wedding ring (coming next week!), I’m hiding it until the wedding so it is a surprise. He had picked out 3 rings he liked and I picked the final one. I should let him wear it before though…I found my E-ring in his underwear drawer before he asked me and … yes, I put it on just to see how it looked. 🙂
Post # 8
I think it’s sweet. I showed my FI his and was a bit disappointed he didn’t put it on. Maybe he’s just getting used to it? I know that’s going to be a big thing for my FI.
Post # 10
I think it would bother me too.
Post # 11
In some cultures the man does wear his ring before the wedding. Micheal Buble is currently wearing his wedding ring for that reason, even though they haven’t had the wedding yet (I believe his FI is from somewhere in South America).
I think that the ring will just have extra meaning after the wedding. 🙂
Post # 12
I think this is really cute! I understand what it symbolizes and that you aren’t married yet, but I would just be so tickled that he was that excited to wear it. So cute!
Post # 13
It’s cute!! It wouldn’t bother me. It would make me happy that he can’t wait to show the world he’s taken 🙂
Post # 14
@Asparagus: Personally as a husband to be I have to admit that my wife shares the same sentiment as you. Something special that needs not be touched/worn until that day.
Also as a husband to be I want to wear it now. Not to “show it off” or to show the world I am taken or anything like that. Not on purpose to lose the meaning of the ceremony, but for comfort reasons.
I have never worn a single piece of jewelry… ever. Not a ring, not a necklace, earring, nothing…. EVER. When trying on the wedding band it felt huge, and rediculous (we even went with a very small 5mm thick one because I was so uncomfortable). I think that being able to wear it even around the house would have made me a little more comfortable with wearing a ring when I do have to wear it and be expected to wear it 24/7.
Just a thought from a very involved in the planning process so much so I got myself a weddingbee account husband to be!
Post # 15
I wouldn’t really want him to wear it myself, but @jacobmbeck: makes a very good point.
One of the things that I secretly love about being a wedding planner is seeing the groom fiddle with his ring during the reception. A lot of photographers will take a shot of it, too. I know they do it because many of them have never worn a piece of jewelry in their life so it does feel very strange.
I can understand him wanting to get used to the way it feels on his hand, but I really wouldn’t want him wearing it out in public. That’s just me.
If he does wear it a bit, have it polished or cleaned right before the wedding (along with your engagement ring). Everyone will be asking to look at them at the reception 🙂 Make ’em shiny!