He's getting all his pick for baby names and get nothing! (small rant)

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think if you aren’t allowed to have your top names then neither should he. I would also say, don’t worry about it until you are actually pregnant. You never know, by that time his names may have grown on you and vice versa…

 

I had something similar with my husband wanting his middle name as our (hypothetical) son’s first name….I am still dubious because I have relatives and friends with the name but it is growing on me. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jbbs1222:  I think once he witnesses you going through the hard work of pregnancy and birth, he will come around.

But it’s not worth worrying about right now. People can change their minds. He could meet a huge jerk named Ethan tomorrow!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

This seems a little out of place. By the time that even becomes an issue, you might both have completely differant ideas on baby names. I think you are just borrowing trouble, honestly.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think each person gets a veto vote. If he doesnt like it, then its a no-go. If you dont like it then its a no-go.

You both have to agree. He or you can be as pushy or insistent as you want to be, but both people still have to agree.

OR come to an agreement. He gets to choose the first kids name if you choose the second kids name (within reason of course)

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@remijp:  Or he might not even like Mission Impossible anymore!

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@jbbs1222:  What I did was compromise. I told him that although I held veto power over any name I absolutely hated, he could name the first child, but that meant I got to name the second. He had the same veto rights, but otherwise, it was all on me.

It worked for us, but YMMV.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Nope, not fair… But also, please don’t fight about this until you are pregnant.

 

FI wants son #1 to have his name, same as his fathers name. I hate FI’s name, he will get made fun of for it if he uses the first initial with a “J” for junior. FI’s mom has even chimed in about it, saying it’s a family name. Ummm no. It’s not, my Fi has it and his father.

 

If your man can put his foot down about it, so can you. In your case, the two of you may need to trash “your names” and decide on new ones together.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Korenne:  “Borrowing trouble” – I love that phrase! 

OP, I really wouldn’t worry about baby names right now – you both might feel very different when the time comes. I would, however, be concerned about your SO’s feelings about compromise. Is compromise something that he struggles with in other areas? It’s definitely an important relationship skill, so that might be something you both want to examine moving forward.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think this is a game that needs to stop.  Why all the drama about something that isn’t even close to happening yet? 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jbbs1222:  I think you should wait until you are expecting and tackle the name issue one at a time. Set out some ground rules that you both need to agree on a name.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree you should worry about this once you are pregnant. By then I would say compromise.

Say if you want 4 kids he gets to pick 2 and you get to pick 2. If you have 3 kids, he gets 1 and you get 1 and the 3rd has to be a combo of both.  2 kids than he has choice on 1 and you have choice on the other.  1 kid than you need to compromise. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yep, worry about it later, not worth stressing about now! I always had favorite names, my DH didn’t like any of them. We are due in Nov and don’t know what we are having, and I hate to say it but DH has picked BOTH our boy and girl names, first and middle!! I love them, but sad that I feel like I didn’t contribute 😉 You’ll be able to compromise when the time comes. 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Try not to worry about this too much right now. It will all work out.

I wanted to name my first son Clark but he didnt like it at all. Fast forward to the present, we found out we were having a boy and he insisted his name be Clark.

I hope you find yourself in a similar situation and get to name a daughter Sara. It is the best name for a girl out there Wink

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Tell him that he can pick the baby names for the babies he carries and you willl pick the ones for the ones you carry 🙂

 

 

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