Post # 1
At the beginning of the year Mr LS started talking about what a big, exciting year it’s going to be, with so many changes, and I had a distinct feeling he was planning to propose sometime this year.
In January he asked me if I’d like to go to Tiffanys and try on rings then tell him which styles I like. I have a friend whose boyfriend had the same idea so my friend and I went together. It was awesome as we went to loads of different jewellers and tried on hundreds of rings together. The styles I thought I loved actually didn’t look so great on my hand, so I’m really glad I did this.
Mr LS then told me that we should take an afternoon off together and I can show him the rings I liked. I was tempted to organise it immediately but then decided it would be better to wait for him to arrange it.
Yesterday he came to me and asked if I could take next Friday afternoon off so we can go ring shopping. He said he’s going to wear his best suit and shine his shoes! It’s very exciting.
Does anyone have any advice on the best ways to ring shop with your boyfriend? I’d like to start at Tiffanys then look at the cheaper wholesalers, as then we can compare to Tiffanys. Should I bring this up? I don’t want to take charge of the event, I’d like him to enjoy his moment of being all romantic and chivalrous for me.
Should I ask him in advance what the budget is, or not talk about money at all? I don’t want to try on rings that we can’t afford as then he’ll feel bad about it. We haven’t had a discussion about whether he will pay or whether we will pay from our joint savings. Should I bring this us, or wait for him to say something?
Any other tips? Thanks girls!
Post # 3
I would let him take the lead. However, you must have some idea of a reasonable budget based on the fact that you have a joint savings account I can assume you know a bit about his financial situation. Also, most jewelers have ring settings similar to the Tiffany’s settings if you see something you like and want to price it out. I told my jeweler I was looking for a setting including a bezel set center stone in a halo and he came back wwith several choices, one of which he called Legacy style and explained it’s similar to the Tiffany’s Legacy setting but comes in various shapes. Have fun!
Post # 4
Yay so exciting!
I second letting him take the lead and be mindful of a budget. Don’t go trying on rings that you know are out of a realistic budget because while it may be fun, he’s obviously taking this very seriously so you should, too. This isn’t just dress up, this is the real deal! Yay!! Money is a big issue and I suggest discussing it before you get into the store, you don’t want to be talking about it at the counter. It’ll make the trying on part a lot less stressful, laid back, and you already know what you can and can’t look it. And I definitely think you should talk about other jewelers with him and comparing styles and prices. Dont be afraid to talk about these things with him,just make sure you do it before you go.
Also, be open to rings he likes and wants you to try on. This is a big deal to him and whether you mean to or not, you might hurt his feelings or pride if you just shoot him down or refuse to look at things he likes. You might just be surprised 🙂 My Fiance and I went together because he used his family heirloom diamond to propose and at the jeweler’s I showed him some styles I liked and he was the one to pick the ring we chose out of all the ones we both looked at and I love it. I gave him some guidance and he ended up picking the perfect one!
Take your time looking and don’t be rash and impulsive. Enjoy the moment with your soon to be Fiance, most importantly 🙂 So cute he’s so into it, wear a cute dress and make a whole day out of it, go to dinner or somthing!! YAY keep us updated!!
Post # 5
I second the thoughts above, you should def. dress up cutely (who wants to try on diamonds in sweats?) and cherish the experience! He will know better than to get a ring that is out of his budget, so let him take care of the money part. And if it comes out of your joint funds..well…after the ring is on your finger all of the $$ is pretty much both of yours, so it doesn’t really matter too much.
Post # 6
My only advice is to have fun!! Ring shopping together is such a fun, special experience. Enjoy it!
Post # 7
I think it would be very cautious of being over excited about one single ring. Even though you want to pick it out, you want him to feel like he had some say in the ring. My Fiance and I narrowed it down to about three rings and I said these are the style I like, I would be happy with any of them or anything similar. Of course he could tell which one I REALLY loved and thats the one he got. I think it made him feel like he had some choice in the matter and it gave him room to spend what he wanted to on the ring.
Good luck and have fun!!! My Fiance took a picture of “the ring” on my hand while my hand was just down at my side and that gave me a good idea how the ring looked naturally.
Also, don’t forget to ask about bands. Even if the ring is not part of a set, ask, what type of band would you place with this ring. If they aren’t able to find something, that means you will probably have a hard time fniding a band to match perfectly and you should think about that before choosing that setting.
Post # 8
We went ring shopping together and I agree, let him lead on the budget and select a few for him to choose from so you can be a little surprised! I hinted to which of the 3 rings I liked was my favorite and he picked up on it. So when he proposed, I was surprised!
Post # 9
I just went ring shopping with my bf one month ago. The way I approached it was by letting him know that I was more interested in showing him the styles that I liked as oppossed to choosing “the one” that day, I told him: “the one will be the one you pick for me”… so that took a lot of pressure off me, and I forgot about budget and just enjoyed trying on beautiful rings and we both decided we like round brilliant cut solitaires with four prongs and thin white gold or platinum bands, something very general. We never discussed size or budget and for me that was great, because since he will pay he’s the one that will decide that and I will be happy with whatever he gets me… as long as he gets it soon lol 🙂
Post # 10
We started looking at chain stores and moved up to high-end boutiques. The style we both loved ended up being at an Italian jeweler rather than Tiffany (which disappointed me. I thought going to Tiffany would be a lot more exciting that it was!) or any other places. If you go to chains, prepare yourself for a few things:
Helzberg does NOT do custom work. Every store I’ve been too has made me feel pressured and judged in one fashion or another. We had a larger budget for a ring than what they stocked and I was harassed repeatedly into attending a “trunk show”. I will never go back to them.
Zales, Kay, etc. were pushy. They follow you around and a lot of the sales people start prying into “dates” and such. That made my boyfriend a little uncomfortable.
Jared was actually the best chain, I hated their commericals and thought it was going to suck. But you enter, they give you water, coffee, or tea, and they LEAVE YOU ALONE! It was wonderful to look at loose stones and settings without the eyeballs being glued to you, watching your every expression.
Tiffany was fine as well. We went into the store in downtown Chicago which was full of tourists anyways. We were left alone, but it wasn’t what I was looking for.
The smaller jewelers or the ones in jeweler row were great. They asked if we needed anything, and they let us be.
It was such a wonderful experience for me to do this and I am currently “waiting”, though we pop in to different places from time to time to browse. Enjoy it. 🙂 Have a nice dinner afterwards!