Post # 1
Well we talked and we decided that long run it would be best for SO to join the military. And it is the right decision but knowing that we’ll be long distance for 6 years (unless we get really lucky)… my heart is breaking a little bit. I’d just come to terms with a 5 year timeline for engagement. And now… We’ve been long distance before but it was only for 3 months. Anyhow I know we are going to be ok but I’m still adjusting the idea and could really use some words of encouragement.
And if someone could reinforce that it’s a bad idea to pressure him to get engaged before he leaves it would be much appreciated. I know pressuring him in general is a bad idea. But I’m a tad unstable at the moment.
Post # 3
i say dont pressure him, my friends husband is a marine and she swears the number of guys that miss home and get super mushy while they are going through basic means there is a high % of engagements when they finish
be patient, stock up on stamps (because you will be writing him almost every day) and take it a day at a time
Post # 4
eloping is right. That’s how I got engaged. lol. He got all sappy while he was away and then proposed to me the weekend he graduated basic. We were married the next year.
Post # 5
“i say dont pressure him, my friends husband is a marine and she swears the number of guys that miss home and get super mushy while they are going through basic means there is a high % of engagements when they finish”
Agreed. My little sister’s bf is a marine. They were on/off before he got stationed in japan but they’re back on again. He was talking about how he wanted to buy a ring and propose to her but changed his mind to getting her a promise ring and giving it to her when he gets some leave instead since she’s only 18 and he’s 20.