(Closed) He’s not being supportive :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wanting to BE married isn’t the same as GETTING married. To me he sounds like a pretty typical guy.

 

Post # 4
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

From my experience, it’s better if he doesn’t care!  My FI cares about EVERYTHING, even the tiny little details.  Sometimes it’s nice to be able to talk to him about it, but really it frustrates the snot of out me because every little thing has to be discussed and debated and considered, when I’d rather just make decisions on my own.

My advice, though, is to talk to him about it.  Say that you feel like you’re doing everything yourself and you’d like his input.  Maybe assign him a job (like music or cake) that he actually does care about.

Post # 6
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14306 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree, sounds typical of the majority of men out there.  I pretty much planned our wedding myself and made all the decisions.  I dragged him to see venues, and tastings and stuff, but he would have been just fine not going to those either.

ETA: And he did say he didnt care about any of the details or anything like that.  Getting married is not equal to planning the wedding in his eyes.  Lets face it, the wedding is usually more for us and our dream of a perfect day than him.  (Unless you are lucky – or unlucky – enough to have a guy that is very opiniated about all the little details)

Post # 8
Hostess
11174 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@vmec:  Agreed.

My FI made is very clear he doesn’t have any opinion regarding the wedding (other than food and alcohol). I have tried to involve him and he just doesn’t seem to care…about the wedding. Guys don’t typically get into the detail mode like we women do so you can’t blame then for being underwhelmed when you show them decor ideas and venue photos.

 

Post # 9
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sounds pretty typical. To be honest, pretty much whenever my DH cared about something it annoyed me. Just slows down the whole process. He probably doesn’t care about the wedding, he cares about marrying you and thats what matters most.

Post # 10
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I kind of wish my FI would care a little less about our wedding… we have such a difficult time deciding on everything between the two of us.  We argued for days over the venue, wedding colors, etc. It’s been really stressfull & our planning is just beginning.  But at the same time I know my fiance isn’t the typical guy… so I’m sure what you are going through would be considered more normal! I wouldn’t stress about it!  He proposed, so you know he wants to marry you! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mags2233:  Yeah I think he sounds like a typical guy! LOL I wouldn’t be too hard on him, you don’t want to start fighting over wedding planning, and if he’s done the few things you’ve asked him to then I think that is great! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LGenz:  I agree with this

Post # 14
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mags2233:  Stop asking him. Ask us.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

As long as you don’t put him a pink tux, I guess that’s all he cares about,

Don’t ask him anymore, “just do it”! He’ll probably be okay with everything.

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