- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
It’s been a crazy couple of weeks, and I’m wondering if my SO has something up his sleeve — and am trying to talk myself out of getting my hopes up (and need help doing that! :P)
Over the past two weeks, SO and I have had 2 seriously in-depth conversations about engagement and marriage, which is highly unusual for us — I’ve been following the Mr. Bee plan and keeping myself from bringing it up or talking about it unless he starts it. So, two weeks ago, he said he had some questions for me — wanted me to remind him about my ring size, asked me if I’d like a solitaire or three-stone ring, and told me that he’d gone to the hometown jewelry store today and talked at length with the salesman. I was about to jump out of my skin, but he did tell me that it would be a long time before he could afford it (and said he just wanted me to know that he’s thinking about it and has it on his mind :D).
This Saturday, I made e-chicken for his birthday dinner, knowing that he loves chicken and getting a kick out of the idea, thinking it couldn’t hurt 😛
The next night, we ended up talking about wedding stuff in bed — where we’d like to get married, who we’d like to officiate, who he’d like to be his groomsmen, random funny detalis about stuff (I tried to keep it light and fun rather than serious). I could tell that he was still a little nervous, even though he was the one who started it, and he actually admitted out loud that it all “seems a little too real” and that he doesn’t like change — but that he wishes he could skip all the wedding stuff and be married to me “yesterday” 🙂 (I told him I wasn’t opposed to going to the courthouse, but he was like “no, no, my family would skin me alive…”). I told him what I always tell him when he brings it up and then gets nervous — that all I care about is that he’d be the one I’d be marrying, and that I’m going to love him the same whether he’s my boyfriend or fiance or husband, and he should wait until he’s ready to ask. He always says “but you’re ready” (… he can tell? :P) — I don’t know how to pressure him less than what I already do!
Anyhoo…. so, last night in bed, he tells me that he’ll have a surprise for me really soon. A big surprise. A BIG surprise. And he asked me what night this week I don’t have anything to do. I tried to play it as cool as I could — we ended up agreeing on Saturday, for whatever the surprise is. I asked him if we were doing something or going somewhere, and he made a noncommittal noise, but he did say that it would need to be a night when we’d have some time together (which is almost every night…… uhh….).
I’m trying to convince myself that he can’t be proposing on Saturday because I know he hasn’t had enough saved back in his ring fund to be ready now. And he’s mentioned a number of times that he’s thought about asking my dad first, or my dad and mom and grandmother first, even though the thought of it scares him silly — and I know he hasn’t had the opportunity to ask any of them, unless he has been a super proposal-ninja (and subtlety isn’t his strong point).
All the same, it’s driving me batty! I tried not to ask him too many questions because I don’t want to ruin the surprise, whatever it is (this has happened before, when I thought he was proposing and he was really investigating buying me a Kitchenaid mixer…). I do know that the surprise isn’t alive, so no pets coming to the house 😛
How do you calm ‘er down and not get all crazy when they tease you like this? 😛