Post # 1
We’ve been married for six months, and, with him turning 30 in six months, we were planning to try next year anyway- I was starting to feel now was as good a time as any. All yesterday I was rethinking the let’s try now, and the he said it, “we can start trying.” I feel like I’m having cold feet. I’m not nervous about the mom part, I’m nervous about the are we too young part- should we “live it up” and try after a year of marriage?
Did any of you go through this? Or is this a sign… should we wait a bit more?
Post # 2
DanceawaytheNight: Only you can answer that question. But I’m sure you’ll always be nervous.
What do you think you’ll actually accomplish in a year that you couldn’t do with a kid? If you actually plan to see the world and live it up and make the most of it, then wait. But if you’re just going to go to work, make dinner, watch movies, I don’t see why not. That was our realization. We were done seeing the world (for now, we want to see things with our kids too). We were done partying. We were in a great place in our relationship. So we started TTC. I’m about 5 weeks now and I’m nervous. But I don’t regret it at all.
Post # 3
DanceawaytheNight: I don’t think there is ever a good time to start trying or to be a parent. I’m 23 and became a mother at 22. I had barely started “living my life” as some would say but that was fine with me. Sometimes I miss what potential life I could have had, had I not gotten pregnant but then I think how much I’ve gained by becoming a parent. I’ve learned a good deal about myself, my relationship with my husband and our relationship with our daughter. I know all of myfamily had children immediately after getting married and never regretted it, but then I know some who have. It’s up to you to decide what’s more important, starting now and forsaking “living it up”, living it up and not having a child or trying. I think it always a little nerve wracking when your world can potentially change, but I think you’ll find if you have children now you won’t regret it.
Post # 4
We started trying right before I turned 30 and we had planned on trying when we did for a year out. Even though I lived it up a lot in the year prior and I really, really wanted to have kids, it was still extremely freaky to get started! We got pregnant right away, and I was freaked out about how much everything was going to change the whole way through. After we had her aand we still traveled and ate out and I still had the occasional get away for adult fun, I realized that I was still having a great time and have the bonus of an awesome daughter as well! So I think that it’s freaky even when you’re ready.
Post # 5
Thank you guys so much! My dental hygenist just said the same thing. You can still do what you want with a kid and no I might not get to go to Paris, but we probably wouldn’t try to do that for a few more years! Ahh it’s just so freaky! I’m starting to feel excited again. It’s something I’ve wanted for so long that it’s weird to think it could be here next year!
Post # 6
I am in the SAME shoes as you! Just be confident that you will be a great mom and when it’s meant to be it will happen 🙂
Post # 7
DanceawaytheNight: we went to London with our 9 month old a few months ago and had a great time! It is a big life change, but for me it was a million times worse in my mind than in reality!