(Closed) He says I’m pressuring him. . .*vent*

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@SincerelyShe:  I wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing nitty-gritty wedding details either without a ring and a date. I mean, that’s one of the things you get to look forward to, being able to start planning because you’re finally engaged!

Post # 4
1013 posts
Bumble bee

ya i would tell him to stop discussing the wedding until you have a ring on your finger. I would be uncomfortable with that too. god men are weird

Post # 5
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SincerelyShe:  You’re definitely not pressuring him. Its perfectly reasonable not to look at vendors before getting engaged. (Unless you want a very very short engagement, in which case it might help you have more time to book vendors you want, but I don’t know that thats really embracing the spirit of a short engagement.)

Post # 6
1231 posts
Bumble bee

He thinks you are pressuring him to get engaged because you don’t want to go wedding vendor shopping without an engagement???? That is nonsense. If he starts to bring up anything about weddings cut him off. Tell him you don’t want to “pressure him”. Guys are irrational and sometimes just down right ridiculous.

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

am i the only one that thought he might want to propose while in the Caribbean and is trying to throw OP off? 

Post # 8
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@eloping:  Nope. You’re not.

Stop talking about rings. Go to the Carribbean. If you come back without a ring, THEN you can be upset 🙂

Post # 10
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you’re missing the boat!  You’ve got a man who actively, without encouragement, talks about wedding plans, and you think he’s just doing it for the hell of it?  Sorry darlin’ but I think you’re being a little obtuse here.  It sounds like he’s a terrible liar and couldn’t think of anything to say without ruining the surprise, so he said that.  Not the best save perhaps, but I certainly don’t think you should view it in the way you are.  Your situation sounds nothing like 90% of waiting bees who think they’re being strung along.  Just sounds like you got yourself a thoughtful, romantic guy who WANTS TO TAKE YOU TO THE CARRIBBEAN!  Did you forget that part?!?  Wouldn’t have to ask me twice…  I say you don’t mention another word about rings, go on the trip and tell us all about your fantastic proposal in paradise when you get back.  🙂

Post # 11
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not every guy wants to go to the Caribbean to check out wedding venues before even being engaged ….*wink* * wink* 

Post # 13
27 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hmm, I agree with the girls on the carribean proposal but I never wouldve thought of this myself! It’s a bit odd of him to be telling you off for ‘pressuring’ him when he brought the whole thing up. I get a bit annoyed when my SO starts discussing the nitty gritty wedding details and I haven’t got a ring yet… it’s like, a little less conversation a little more action, for want of a better phrase!! Good luck, keep us updated!

Post # 14
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ProfessorGirl:  I agree 100% and couldn’t have said it better myself Laughing

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