Post # 1
Seriously! OMG. I had a shitty day at work. I came home and wanted to make a smore. I go into the pantry and my marshmallows and chocolate are gone. Ugh. I went into my other cabinet to grab my chips and guess what? Yup gone. Pasta, fruit, etc.? ALL FUCKING GONE! FI is a g damn garbage disposal. We don’t share money yet, so it really pisses me off when he eats my food. I can’t afford to feed myself and him. I’ve talked to him about it many times and he just doesn’t get it. Whatever, I have wine lol.
Post # 3
@MrsSweetT: Why dont you guys start splitting the grocery bills?
Post # 4
Give him a list and tell him to buy some freaking groceries!
Post # 5
sorry your frustrated. I do find it weird though that you guys don’t share food if you live together. Nothing in our kitchen is just mine or just his unless it’s something oNLy one of us likes. We both go grocery shopping. When we first moved in we would split groceries 50/50 but now that we are closer to getting married whoever has the time to shop pays and doesn’t think twice about it.
perhaps sit and have a chat with SO about what a partnership looks like.
Post # 7
Yeah, you two aren’t roommates. He should be contributing – either going to the grocery store or financially.
FI and I combined finances ages ago. But, my friend didn’t until after the wedding and before that, they would just split the bills – she would pay for groceries, but he would pay for gas/electric or something like that. That’s another option, although it won’t really solve the problem of him finishing something you might want and not telling you to pick some more up, but it might solve the problem of you feeling like he’s eating “your” food.
Post # 8
You’re engaged and living together and don’t share finances? How long have you been dating?
Post # 9
Uhm…have you told him? Has this happened before?
Post # 10
@BeeinBoston: +1…. DH and I still haven’t merged finances formally, but ever since we started dating, and moved in together, stuff like groceries is an equal partnership. He would never leave me hungry, nor would I do that to him.
Post # 11
I agree with PP that your engaged and living together, and still do my food and your food…. its a little weird…
Post # 12
@BeeinBoston: +1 There’s no such thing as “my food & his food” even though we don’t have combined finances yet otherwise.
@MrsSweetT: He can’t have it both ways. Either you split the food bill and together buy enough for both of you or he can’t eat “your” food. This is pretty much the FIRST thing that usually gets split with a couple living together, so I’d get on it quick.
ETA: It would piss me off even if we did have combined finances. He can’t eat everything in the house and leave nothing for you!
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema
We live together and don’t really jshare finances, just if we need soemthing one of us will get it. We keep it pretty even without really trying.
FI has done the food thing to me too, I tell him you can have some treaty things but at least save me some dammit! lol