(Closed) He’s taking forever to “officially propose”?!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@waitingwonderland:  Unfortunately there’s no magic formula. It varies man to man. Perhaps he is waiting for a special occaision like a birthday, anniversary or something else?

Post # 5
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - The Millennium Center

Maybe he’s planning something nice or trying to totally surprise you! Me and my fiancé picked out my ring and he ordered it on the spot. He told me since it was near Christmas time that Artcarved was back ordered. I totally bought it. He proposed 3 weeks later on Christmas. Your bf is probably really trying to make it a surprise and special since you already know what the ring looks like 🙂 

Post # 6
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@waitingwonderland:  yep, it totally depends on the guy/situation. He may have a special date in mind, any special events/holiday’s coming up that are important to you? I have been waiting 5 months since he bought the ring (NYE!)…but we both really wanted to be finished the semester before we got engaged, tomorrow is my last final so we shall see !

Post # 7
40 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@waitingwonderland:  i feel like we have the same life right now!  I went ring shopping about a month ago with my boyfriend and he bought a ring on the spot-i was so shocked! I walked away when they were discussing details such as when he would pick it up bc i knew it would drive me insane, but of course my boyfriend told me the day he was picking it up which was 2 weeks ago.  I’ve been on edge ever since we went ring shopping but I’m finally starting to calm down a little bit.  It’s really hard becuase there are so many emotions, you want to be excited and happy and ready to plan for the future but at the same time your mad and frustrated bc hes taking so long.  It’s probably one of the hardest things to get through emotions wise.. sometimes i feel insane! haha 

Every guy really is different though, I’ve learned that from reading posts on here.  I had it in my head that my boyfriend would come home and would be bursting with excitement and wouldnt be able to keep the ring from me.. but i was wrong.. he probably wants to surprise you and I definitely dont think you will underwhelm him, it will be just as special as you hope for i am sure of it! and try not flip out at him.. from my experience (bc i have def had moments i am not proud of in the past month lol) it only causes an argument and makes you feel silly. in the meantime you should try mr bees backup plan.. it really does work.. its so hard but focus on being happy and try not to think about it.. you’ll be planning your wedding soon enough 🙂

Post # 8
94 posts
Worker bee

Not my personal experience, but my friend A and her now fiance picked out the ring together about three months before he officially proposed.

I know that A’s fiance wanted to surprise her and make it romantic, especially since she already knew what the ring looked like.

Perhaps your guy just wants to make it romantic for you.


Post # 10
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i’m in the same boat as you. my SO has had the ring for a month now. i’m positive it’s going to be at least another month, maybe two.  luckily for me, i HAVE felt much more relaxed since he got the ring. just knowing that it will be coming soon is enough for me.   if i were you, i would tell myself that it will be another couple months. that way, you won’t be so anxious every day.

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