Post # 1
I wonder if I am the only one that feels this way…
There is no doubt in my mind that my love and I are going to spend the rest of our lives together. We have discussed marriage in depth, planned our wedding date, and he is making his move from Cleveland to New York to be with me the end of August.
I don’t have a ring yet. Ring is already picked out, and he plans to propose by the end of the year.
With a chosen wedding date of Oct 2013, planning needs to begin, but I feel a little crazy planning a wedding, visiting venues, or trying on dresses without a ring. I am not doubting it will happen. It just doesn’t feel “real” yet.
Does anyone else feel this way, or am I just a hot mess?
Post # 3
Nah girl. Get a fake ring to wear to the venues and plan away. You know it is happening, so make it happen. just be low key about it. Discreetly book your venue and but wait for the dress. Venue shopping is vicious. but try to avoid doing anything that requires putting down money until you have got the ring.
Post # 4
@Sapphire-Dreamer: Yes, you are so right. We have about 4 venue tours booked early September when he is finally relocated to New York. He is just as excited about the wedding as I am. So a fake ring sounds good, or I can use the “it’s getting sized” line. Lol
Post # 5
I agree. If you are sure about this then by all means plan and prepare as much as you can, but I also would not make any payments on anything until the proposal/ring.
Good luck, this is exciting, congrats!
Post # 6
Don’t start planning until he proposes.
One day, while my fiance and I were watching a wedding show, a girl said she was shopping for a dress and wasn’t even engaged. My fiance was disgusted and said he’d be so angry if he found out I was shopping/planning before we even got engaged.
The most I’d do for now is look at magazines.
Post # 7
I’d discuss it with your SO. Let him know (if he doesn’t know already) that weddings don’t plan themselves over night. Since the relationship’s moving in that direction anyway and you’re both on board for it, I don’t see why you couldn’t start planning. It sounds like you’re both in the “engaged” mentality anyway, so go for it!
My SO and I are in a similar situation. He has the ring, we know it’s going to happen, he’s saving up now (has been for 6 months already) and buying a house for us next spring, so it’s like everything’s falling into place. We’ve discussed wedding planning, and though we don’t have a specific date set, we still discuss planning the wedding. I think if y’all are both open and ready to start planning, go for it! Good luck to both of you!!