Hey everyone! First time poster, long time lurker here. Moving in with my SO!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ChicoryCreek:  Welcome to the Hive! It sounds like things are going well for you. Congratulations on the next step in your life together!

Post # 5
2172 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@ChicoryCreek:  It sounds like you’re working things out a lot!

I don’t have any real tips (I’m not living with my FI yet), but I would just make sure that it was understood who pays for or contributes to what, and what the expected chore ratio would be.

Post # 6
36 posts

I’m moving in with SO in January too! But we’re moving to a whole new city so it should be interesting. I’m posting to follow advice. 

Post # 10
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Not sure if I have any advice, per se, just telling my experiences to give you another perspective. I met my SO almost 3 years ago while I was studying. After a couple of months, I stayed with him on weekends and the rest of the time at home with my parents (FYI neither of us or our families are religious). After another year it got to the stage where I stayed with him for 4 nights out of 7 and the rest with my parents. I officially moved in a year ago when I’d almost finished my degree, but I guess you could say I gradually moved in with him over the course of 2 years haha. That definitely made the ‘moving in’ process easier. My SO loves cooking (I hate it. I tried a couple of times but I get so frustrated and stressed that it’s just better for him to do it!). We share other chores when they need to be done; we don’t have a roster or anything. I remember when I started staying over, it took me a while to get used to the fact that he walks around in his underwear! You learn a lot about a person by living with them, and although it could be a bit awkward at the start, in the end (if they don’t have any awful deal-breaker habits) you become more comfortable being with them. Personally I would never get married without living with someone. I definitely believe in “try before you buy” haha!

Post # 13
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

I recently moved in with my SO. I can only say that moving is VERY stressful. We seriously bickered the entire day we were moving in, and I was thinking like WTF am I even moving in with him for!? Then the next day came and I realized it was a good decision. I haven’t regretted it once! 

I think the best piece of advice is to make sure you all know what you are paying for and what chores you will be doing around the house. I do a majority of the cleaning and cooking, but there are certain jobs that I rely on my SO to do (dishes, bathroom cleaning, kitty litter, trash–the dirty jobs LOL). Also it’s good to know for everyone involved if you’ll be paying 50/50, another percentage, or if your SO will be covering everything or vice versa. 

Post # 15
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

My best advice…don’t share the bathroom unless it’s just for a quick shower/brushing teeth.  I know some people do, but I’m sorry…no guy should be walking in while you’re going to the bathroom.  It kills the romance to me lol

Post # 16
151 posts
Blushing bee

posting to follow. Good luck OP!

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