Post # 1
So I have been talking with my bridesmaids and we have been trying to come up with something fun for us to do for my Bachelorette party. (First weekend of May) The problem is, one of my bridesmaids is Fiance sister and she is only 20.
We live in Michigan (between Ann Arbor and Flint) and are super close to Canada, but if you have never been there let me tell you, it is dirty! Also, I really do not want to spend that night in an area flooded by drunk 19 year olds…No Thank you!!!
I am not a huge party girl, but I would still like to be able to go out looking cute and make it so EVERYONE can have fun. I know you do not have to drink to have fun, but I also know that it is NOT fun being the sober sally with a bunch of people who have been drinking.
All of the other Bridesmaids are 27 and older, and it is a little difficult to come up with something that would be fun for everyone. Any ideas??
Post # 3
We’re planning on doing a spa day – facials/manicures/pedicures & then getting all dolled up and going to a nice dinner. We’ll probably have a few drinks at dinner but it won’t be outrageous and the day/evening won’t be focused around alchohol.
Maybe something along those lines might work for your group too? That way some can still drink but your underage guests won’t feel completely left out.
Post # 4
We did a very small, initimate get-together for a BBQ at my MOH’s house. You could drink if you want, stay there all night, whatever you wanted to do. I loved it because I am not a drinker and I don’t have a lot of friends either, or at least people I would invite to a bachlorette party.
Post # 5
@FutureWife517: I’ve never really been outside my province (Quebec) since I moved to Canada, but I HIGHLY doubt that any province is completely “dirty”. If you go to a relatively (for Canada) large city at a slighly upscale bar or lounge, I can’t imagine any 19 year olds would be present, and at least everyone will be able to have fun.
As I remember from my pre-21 visits to the US, it SUCKS to be the only one who can’t drink, even if it’s just with dinner at a restaurant.
Post # 6
@arathella: I also thought calling Canada dirty was an interesting comment! I mean, i’m from Vancouver, and it’s typical big city, but I’d never say it’s significantly dirtier than anywhere else…
OP – what exactly is near you? London? If you drove a little farther into Toronto proper, you should be able to find a higher end club that might not attract the barely 19 crowd.
Post # 7
@arathella: I think she means the bars in Windsor (which is right over the Detroit river, into Canada) are dirty. Which I completely agree with. They are made basically for underage metro Detroiters to go over and get sloppy.
Post # 8
yuck…i agree right over the bridge is very imdustrialized and dirty. but so is detroit. ive never been far into canada but the bars i saw werent appealing. and lets face it…lake erie is gross. unless yoiu have a.private party and slip a few 😉
Post # 9
Go out for adult fun without her, and then do something with everyone another time.
Post # 10
@FutureWife517: how interesting to read a comment from someone who lives in the same state that houses the cesspool known as Detroit label an entire country based on their experiences in one city.
Post # 11
Yeah, OP, maybe you could try not insulting all the Canadians with your post. Why don’t you just say “a lot of underage people from Detroit go across the border to get drunk”? You don’t have to insult Canada itself. In the future, please try to be a little more considerate.
Post # 12
Very offensive to call a country dirty, (especially seeing as it has a reputation of being very clean). If you are in fact referring to the bars that are on the border, then be more specific in your post.
Post # 13
@FutureWife517: Be careful how you phrase things on here, being one of many Canadian Bees, I take serious offence to you calling my country dirty. I’ve been to Flynt, and it’s no fairytale city either. A little tact on your part would have saved this whole post from being hijacked by pissed Canucks.
Post # 14
while I’m not engaged yet, I have been dreaming of having an adult slumber party, renting a suite or two rooms and staying up late, watching movies, drinking, etc no age limit there!
Post # 15
We had the same issue.
We got a limo, drank in the limo (the driver didn’t check ID or anything, but he didn’t need to since the underage girl wasn’t paying), and then went to eat at a nice restuarant. Then, we went to a karaoke bar (with private rooms) that said it was okay to have our friend there as long as she wasn’t drinking.
It was great! And we all dressed up, too 🙂
Post # 16
Let’s hopefully get the conversation back on track and recognise that the OP most likely meant that bars generally frequented by 19 year olds are dirty. Not the whole of Canada. Has no one here ever said anything that was/could have been misinterpreted?
Anyway, OP, I’m planning on not having any drinking at all at my hen’s night. I’m going to have a pregnant bridesmaid, another one of the invited ladies will be breastfeeding at that time, and I barely drink, so alcohol is off bounds. I’m thinking we’ll play laser tag and go out for dinner somewhere nice. We would probably have gone camping if my Bridesmaid or Best Man didn’t get pregnant. If it turns out we need something quieter, we may just do a spa day, or we’ll hire a bunch of movies and just have a girls’ night in. Obviously you recognise you don’t need alcohol to have fun, but if there’s going to be people at there who can’t drink, you need to find a way to accommodate that.