Post # 1
Hey philly peeps! My boyfriend and I have been engaged for about a week now, but we’re both teachers and are trying to get as much done as possible for the school year begins.
Our dilemma is this: we both would like to have a big wedding–or rather, it’s not the size that matters, but we both have lots of really great friends that we want to include in the celebration (the majority of these we could just not imagine celebrating without). And I also come from a tight-knit big family that also has a really special (and sizable) community of family-friends. We always imagined that our wedding would be the perfect place to bring everyone together and have a total blast.
We are also two pretty low-key people who could totally be excited to have a casual wedding with lots of DIY elements in a lovely outdoor spot (we have lots of musician/artist friends who’d be happy to help out). We don’t need all the bells and whistles! Just want to make it a special day with the people we love (of which there are many!).
Is it possible to have both a low-key and a big wedding that won’t break the bank? Does anyone know of a nice outdoor venue that could accommodate a large reception but also stay affordable and low-key? In my research so far, it’s seeming like big wedding often means formal wedding.
any advice would be appreciated!!
Post # 3
Potluck wedding. I want to do it, but less than 1/5 of my guests would be coming from within the state. It’s low key, makes people feel involved (and most of my guests are the type who are ALWAYS involved behind the scenes), and you can invite a BUNCH of people without paying thousands for food. Of course, then it’d be best to ask for food instead of a gift. Maybe ask in-town guests to bring food and a registry for the out of town guests?
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Post # 5
@cyneswith: Definitely like the idea of a potluck and thinking about possibly doing it. Also love the idea of asking for food instead of gifts. But also want to make sure we find the right space to do it in (it might come off better in a barn-like space than in a big white tent on a site. not sure). Also, definitely want to make sure I don’t end up having to do too much figuring out the day of (or even day before) the wedding.
thanks for the idea!
Post # 6
@JennM21: thanks for the link! i’ve seen a lot of those places online but there definitely were a few that were new to me. I love Bartram’s Gardens–we actually live in that neighborhood–but my band played at a wedding there and I think it’s a little smaller than we’d like. Will check out the others. Thanks!
Post # 7
A potluck wedding would be a great way to save some serious cash :), and you could still have a huge bash with your closest family and friends >.<
Post # 8
Friends of mine just had their wedding at a small B&B in New Hope..it was fabulous! They set up two tents – one for eating and one for dancing. They had all bbq food and salads. It was delicious! They saved so much cash by ordering flowers wholesale and making their own favors, as well. A big wedding on a budget can definitely be done!
Post # 9
Hi, have you read the 2000 dollar wedding? You may find that to be very helpful to you.