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We haven't started trying yet, but I think once we finally do start we won't be sharing the details with anyone until we have a baby on the way. I think it's maybe different to tell your parents or siblings, but even then you end up with more questions and inquries. I think the only person I am going to speak to about our official TTC will be my mother because she and I share various fertility issues that I am sure I am going to want a lot of insight on. Other than that, it's really no one's business.

We haven't even spoken to anyone about our baby plans and we are already getting a whole slu of questions, advice, etc. It's pretty annoying so I can imagine the constant "update report" while TTC would be even more annoying if everyone knew.

I follow this rule of thumb: I tell the people that I would want support from if something went very very wrong.  That means my mother, 1 sister, and my best friend.  That's it.  I too was bombarded by Mother's Day stuff yesterday, and it was rough, no lie.

I just mentioned this on another thread. I did not want to tell many people, or I wanted to be vague about when we'd start exactly but just say "soon." This is what I've been trying to do. DH however ruined this yesterday. He went to a family gathering without me and apparently everyone was asking him because I just finished my graduate degree. They were all saying "baby is next!" and he apparently agreed and said things like "yep!" UGH. I coulda killed him when he told me that, but he doesn't see the big deal. Maybe, like Mrs Green Grass, it could be good so that people actually shut up if it does take awhile and stop making comments about it. 

Regardless, this is such a rude question if you ask me. 

@panterapeach: LOVE IT!!! omg lol if only I had the guts to say that to someone. 

We weren't going to tell anyone. But... I should have known better! FI has trouble keeping secrets, and when he went to visit his parents this past weekend, he let it slip to his mom. I'm a bit upset, i don't want the questions about how it's going? Are you pregnant yet? Now I'll have to deal with it right away, which I know will make trying more stressful.

I just tell people that it's in our five year plan even though we are TTC now.  I've told a couple of close girlfriends because it is nice to have somebody to talk to about it but neither DH or I are intending on telling our families unless we have problems with TTC.

On a side note the ladies in my office have taken bets on when I'm going to get knocked up.  I'm hoping May is going to be our month (and then my favourite workmate wins!)

I'm not so worried about people knowing that we're getting down and dirty but I am sensitive to the fact that there's no guarantee we can get pregnant (not that we're expecting any problems) and the thought of not being able to have babies petrifies me :-(

we didn't tell people when we were trying. when people would endlessly ask (since the moment we tied the knot...ugh, people!) i would just reply that we're just seeing what happens. i honestly don't think its anyone's business and can't believe how free some people feel to ask you something like that just cause you're married. its hard enough to go through all the motions of ttc (no pun intended...tee hee) without the pressure of feeling like you have to get pregnant for everyone else too! 

I only told my best friend, and I lived to regret it. Every time I saw her she'd ask how things were going. In the grand scheme of things, I didn't have to wait too long- about three months- but it was a pretty stressful time and having my friend say, 'are you pregnant yet? My sister got pregnant on her first try!' every couple of days did not help. I know she meant well, and she was excited for me, but it did get old.

I felt like a dumbass though because I told my husband not to tell anyone we were TTC (yeah, I told my best friend but I figured that didn't count), and thought he hadn't (he's not much of a talker). Well, it turned out he had told a few people, so when they would ask I would give a little song and dance about how we wanted to wait a while longer and they knew damn well we were trying. I didn't find that out until after I got pregnant though.

As far as people asking, yeah, it's none of their business, but I've found that being asked if you're TTC is just part of being married, particularly if you're over the age of 25. People are always going to ask. And once you have one, people will ask when you're going to have another one. And the cycle continues until you make a public announcement that you are done having kids. And in that case, they will probably ask what steps you are taking to eliminate the possibility of accidents.

I'm not planning on telling anyone.  People have been asking us for over a year now and we aren't even married yet.  I keep saying that "we'll see - maybe one day".

I don't want anyone to know. it is personal and i feel would put more stress on me if it doesn't happen right away. Plus i think it is bad luck to tell anyone until at least 3 months pregnant but, thats only because i have had 2 miscarriages. The first one we started telling people at about 5 weeks and everyone felt sorry for us when we lost it. The second one we didn't tell anyone so no one knew but, us.

Everyone knows we are TTC. Since I already knew we would need the help of a fertility specialist I wasn't reserved at all. And I don't regret it. We don't get the "are you pregnant yet?" questions and it has been almost a year since we started the whole process. They ask us how our treatments are going, what the next step is if this one doesn't work, etc. It has been so wonderful to have the support of our friends and family in this trying time. Of course, this also means everyone will know when a treatment works and we do get our BFP. But I know they will be so excited for us. I also know that if we should miscarry, I will have the support of all the people I love. I won't have to hide it. I won't have to explain anything if I'm not acting like myself.

We are not telling ANYONE which is why I made this user name, can't even come clean on the 'bee in case peope IRL recognize my username (I use it for a lot of things in my real life, yahoo chat, and its my nickname, etc)