Post # 1
Here is the situation. I used to watch 16 and pregnant. There was this little girl who’s name was Tinsley. I fell inlove but DH was like fackk no. lol Well fast forward to now and we are having another girl! First thought was ooooohhhhh Tinsley is perfect but DH is still against it. Darn it. Anyways, I serve at my church in the babies room and there is this little girl named Kinsley. I thought OMG how friggin’ cute of a name. I asked DH what he thought and his eyes got big and said that’s perfect! So we now have a name Kinsley Jane, but I can’t help but think will this mom at church think I totally stole her babies name. Will she think bad of me? I don’t want any tension at church. It’s one of my safe places and I just don’t want things to be awkward. I just really love the name Kinsley Jane and to call her KJ.
What do you bees think?
Should we change the name? (It’s seriously the only name we could agree on.)
Post # 3
nah, don’t change it. if i were the mom, i wouldn’t be upset or annoyed by it. i would be flattered that someone else thought it was a cute name too. if she gets annoyed, then she has issues.
Post # 4
Are you REALLY close to this person? If not, fair game. Kinsley is fairly popular so it’s not like you couldn’t have heard/seen it anywhere else.
Post # 5
I always figure that if I limited my (far off in the future) children’s name to those that weren’t used by anyone I knew, I’d have very few choices left. Nice of you to be conscientious, but if you and your husband both love the name and think it perfect, I wouldn’t change it.
Post # 6
@MrsSawyer: Nope, rarely see her and I mean rarely.
@Gemstone: Very true. My aunt used a family name for her DD’s middle name. Then like 8 years later a different aunt used the same family name for her DD’s first name. The aunt who used it as a middle name went ape shit. That’s why I get nervous. lol
Post # 7
My SIL said she would use my son’s (family) middle name for her baby if it was a boy, too. I probably would have prefered she ask, but I would have said yes, and ultimately it doesn’t bug me (of course, the baby is a girl, but she would probably still use it for a future boy, too.)
My aunt asked me if she could use my middle name for her daughter when I was about 12. I was so excited!
That being said, this was family. Random lady at church? Fair game.
Post # 8
@figgnewton: Say this to her, “We absolutely love that name! Do you mind if we use it?” I would consider it very flattering.
Post # 9
@Gemstone: Great way of putting it!
We have a little one coming in August and I thought the name Griffin would be adorable. Plus the name goes well with big sis, Phoenix. Turns out DH’s cousin has a son named Griffin. The cousin I have never met, DH hasn’t seen in years and lives in a different state. If I think that’s fair game than you for sure are good to go!
Post # 10
@figgnewton: Oh I totally understand your concern. I guess I just try to tell myself that naming your child is a huge (and irreversible) thing, so it really has to make you and your husband happy first.
Post # 11
You say you rarely see this woman – If I rarely saw a person and they named their baby the same name as my child, I probably wouldn’t for a second think that they “stole” my baby name or even think they got the name from my child.
If it were a close friend or family member, it would change things a bit. I wouldn’t be totally against them using the same name, but I’d probably prefer a heads up.
Post # 12
I think mentioning it to the woman and asking if she would mind would be a good move. I almost feel like as soon as someone on Facebook uses a name or one of our acquaintances names their child something then that name is now off limits. Whenever a FB friend gives birth I hold my breath that they won’t use one of our chosen names! Ridiculous, I know.
Kinsley Jane is so cute!
Post # 13
Weird that your husband was SO against Tinsley but loves Kinsley. They are like the same name to me. Anyway, you should name your kid what you like- I wouldn’t worry about what someone at church thought.
Post # 14
I say use it..its not like she is a close friend or family member. I have some baby names that I like but I have never revealed them to my friends or family cause I dont want the situation of them stealing the name lol
Post # 15
@MRSsrm85: haha I feel like she would be obligated to say yes.
@Gemstone: Thank you(:
@adoc86: Thanks(: haha I was waiting for one of my aunt’s and unlces to use it. I’m so glad no one did!
@eeniebeans: Yeah I thought the same thing too. He told me Tinsley just reminds him of a tin can. Why? I don’t know. lol
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. Even if you were closer friends, I feel the friend has no place to say you can’t use a name. I feel that direct siblings are the only people you can’t “steal” names from, and even in that case, if it’s a family name, everyone should get to use it.
Also, I just wanted to bring up the name “Tenley”. There was a girl on The Bachelor a few years ago with that name, and I wanted to throw it in there if you’re still looking for similar alternatives. KJ might be cuter for a little girl than TJ, though.