Post # 1
So, I am just saying hi, and explaining my lovely wedding plans. 🙂
My FI and I have finally made the decision to elope! We got engaged over a year ago and plan to elope within the next year. I spent months planning a huge wedding event inviting everyone we have ever known but being broke college students really didn’t make that possible. And the headache involved in planning a big wedding was horrible, I have no clue how you other bees pull it off. I was stressed out about every detail. I have never dreamed of crying over wedding magazines when I was a child planning out a fabulous huge wedding. So, we then decided to have an intimate wedding where only our siblings, parents and other family that are truly supportive of us (we have crazy amounts of family drama) would be in attendance. Including those only near-and-dear to us, we still had a huge guest list, we both have large families. Our other problem is that both our families live on other sides of the country (Nova Scotia and Alberta). So one day we were stressing over wedding details again and we decided to elope. And when we seriously considered it, elopement just seems to fit. So it is more so a ‘planned elopement’, we have already told our immediate family (parents and siblings) we plan to elope to spare hurt feelings.
Our plans now involve disappearing for a few days on vacation and coming back married. Our circumstances have changed drastically in the last few months, my lovely FI moved back to Alberta because the economy is doing much better and I am still living in Nova Scotia to finish my last year of school. Our plan as of now is for FI to come visit me in April before I move to ‘help me pack’; then we are going on a romantic getaway somewhere in NS to elope. Afterwards we plan on having a ‘going away’ BBQ at my mother’s house with her family which will be a ‘surprise we eloped’ party. Then we pack up our lives and move to Alberta where we have a similar surprise BBQ with my in-laws to celebrate as well.
Wow, that turned into a long post. Sorry…
I guess I am just super excited to be part of the beehive.
Post # 3
That sounds SO fun and SO exciting! Congrats!
Post # 5
@bakeapple: Welcome to the hive! Your plans sound amazing… I’m a fellow Canadian bee, and we are trying to nail down our elopement plans as well! It sounds like it must be a huge weight off your shoulders 🙂
Post # 6
@PermaStudent: Thanks! Yay another Canadian bee 🙂
It was a huge weight lifted off of our shoulders, we actually took a break from wedding planning for a while because things were so overwhelming, but now we are back in planning mode and it is much nicer this time around! Goodluck with your planning.
Post # 7
I love this plan 🙂 Sounds so romantic!
Post # 8
Welcome! Have you figured out where in NS you are going to elope? I have only been to NS once but I thought it was beautiful! and the people are so friendly.
Post # 9
We went through the exact same thing: we originally planned to have an intimate wedding, but when it became too stressful, we decided to elope! We’re having so much fun planning everything.
How did your family react when you told them, if you don’t mind my asking? FI and I are currently debating whether we should tell people before or after.
Post # 10
@deetroitwhat: Thanks! Even the planing feels much more intimate and romantic now. We can actually plan the day we want.
@julies1949: Somehwere along the south shore, that’s where my mom lives and where FI and I met and spent the beginnings of our relationship living. There are at least a hundred beaches along the shore, but there are a few that are our favorites, so now we are just trying to pick the beach we like the best. I am thinking we are going with a little beach in East Port L’Hebert. It’s the one we use to go to most often and it’s rather private (not many tourists know about it). And the beach itself is beautiful and gives us plenty of on-site photo opportunities without traveling all over the place.
@shaynapunim: They actually took it really well. It started as a joke “Oh my this is so stressful, we should just elope”, then it turned into a serious conversation, one day I was talking to my mom and I told her that we had made up our minds to elope. She was really supportive, her wedding was planned in two weeks, and after seeing how stressed out I was she understoood that it was for the better. Sometimes she jokes that she is going to crash our wedding and feels like she is missing out. I think the best part of telling everyone we are going to elope is that we can still involve them with some of the planning. We told our family we plan to elope within the next year, but have kept dates and locations a complte secret. I have a feeling they will figure it out when he flies down, but the ceremony is going to remain a secret. To keep my mom involved she helped me choose my dress and I will get her to help with some other small planning as well. I also think telling pepole in advance takes away some of the sting, you didn’t just sneak away without them knowing. I also wanted to tell our families to test the water, if the reactions were horrible we would just plan a big wedding anyway, we would be miserable and broke, but at least they would have been happy.
We also felt it was better to tell people in advance because for some unapparent reason even if you are having a small wedding everyone assumes they should be on that list. So when we get the awkward ‘when’s the weeding, I can’t wait to be there..’ conversation we just politely explain that we plan on eloping. Our general reaction has been really well, a lot of our married friends/family claim that’s how they would do it if they could again, and eventually the single ones will understand when they start planning their wedding.