Post # 1
As my title says I am Miss Rc Car and I have problem.
The Mister and I would really like 4 kids. We even have lists of names picked out. The problem seems to be the getting pregnant part. After that problem comes a pretty big fear that I have. When my mom was trying to have children she miscarried A LOT. They found out she had a problem carrying a baby past 10-12 weeks. I am afraid that I will be doomed to repeat this problem because the doctors didn’t believe her. I don’t think I can handle what she went through. Darling Husband and I have talked about it and he understands that it could happen to us.
Darling Husband and I would like nothing more then to become preggers soon. Even though we have people that don’t think we are ready for children. We got a lot of people saying, “why not just enjoy being married for awhile?” Um, because it took my mom 10 years to carry a baby to term thats why!!! We just want to figure this out now.
So I guess in short: My problem is baby envy like woah bad and this fear that I will have the same problem my mom had…..Bee’s I need help, perhaps something that will distract me from baby fever.
Post # 3
Do you guys feel ready to have a baby right now? You never know whats going to happen so you should be prepared for anything. It could take a while, but it could also happen right away. My advice is, don’t try until you’re ready for it to happen at anytime. If you need a distraction, focus on enjoying life without a baby. Plan dinner parties, go out with your friends, plan a spontaneous overnight trip, enjoy the alone time with your husband, and once you’re both ready; try for a baby! 🙂
Post # 4
@MissRCcar: Take a deep breathe and enjoy married life. Darling Husband and I are trying immediately because we are in our 40s and my clock has tocked. You on the other hand sounds like you have time on your side and can discuss w/ your OB your issues and concerns knowing your mother’s history. Medicine has vastly improved since our parents time. Hell in the last decade.
I had my first myomectomy a decade ago and only was able to take out one grapefruit sized fibroid and the recovery was 6 months. My uterus was still filled w/ fibroids. This past Sept my RE took out 11 fibroids via robotic myo and my recovery time was 6wks. I’m now technically fibroid free. My Bestie had a MC @ 5 months and discovered all the women in her family had a history of MC. She was on bedrest for 7months and delivered a healthy baby boy w/out any issues.
Enjoy being w/ your husband and plan for children when your both ready. W/ today’s medical advancements, the impossible is often possible.
Post # 5
@MissRCcar: I would get as much information on your mom’s miscarriage problem as you can. If they figured it out for her, they should be able to test you and see if you have the same issue. Recurrent miscarriages can be caused by physical or endocrine or immunological problems – all of which can be treated before or while you ttc in order to prevent the same problems she had. Bottom line: I don’t think you need to speed up your baby timeline because of potential issues, but I would use your pre-ttc time to do a little research and talking with your doctor about your reproductive health. I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 6
I definitely don’t think you should try for a baby until you are to the point that you can see yoursellf with one 9 months from now. If you are ready I say go for it! As long as the two of you are prepared and ready that’s all that matters. Just remember that just because your mother had problems doesn’t necessarily mean that you will.
I had a problem with being patient while I was TTC and we didn’t even try that long, but I bought a clearblue easy fertility monitor and our 2nd month using it I got pregnant. So if you are impatient like me… that may be an option for you.